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In a time when Fatherhood is a hot button issue in the African American community actor/rapper Tray Chaney releases a music video for his new song titled Fatherhood that hits the mark. Many will recognize Chaney from his role as Poot Carr on HBO’s hit show “The Wire.”
Lawdhammersee with a cherry on top, but news has it that a major cable network just sent a cattle call for all 30-something grandmothers.
So in 1999, I was able to adopt. It was the best thing I could have done for the both of us.
Thanks to a very generous private party donation (TODAY!!) we know have enough to start building the social media platform for “Map Your Future!” MYF is the first- of- its- kind mentorship program operated completely online. Twenty children will be selected to participate for one year to interface with 100 mentors in various areas to [...]
“When you been molested your whole life, sometimes these girls be hoes. They do it to cover up the pain of what happened to them. “ –Former prostituted teen
“It’s called “No Wedding, No Womb,†but in the effort to fix the broken homes of the African American community we are forgetting an important member – the father.”
If this report came to fruition because of the initial blog-a-thon, just think how far we can go with the resources we need to move ahead!
“Understanding that there are exceptions to every rule, many many children of single headed households do wonderfully in life and love. But they are exceptions. The overwhelming majority of children in these households will suffer at some point during childhood.”
“No wedding No womb is not a judgment. It’s an option. There is a difference. More should know it and respect it and collectively, we all may go further, faster.”
When you are a single parent, EVERYTHING that is done in a normal household (with 2 parents) is on the shoulders of the 1 parent.
The No Wedding, No Womb (NWNW) movement is no different in this respect. “Those who support it are demanding to know: Are you with us or against us?
Well, I’m neither… “
It is amazing to me that in almost all cultures, there is intense pressure on females to remain chaste and pure but men are encouraged to spread their seed with as many women as possible without any ramifications and this paradigm of thinking is dangerous.
“As a happily married woman and expectant mother, I have personally experienced some of the benefits of being in a loving marriage before becoming pregnant. I’ll just discuss a few reasons why “No Wedding, No Womb” is a good darn idea.”
“The hip hop artists who religiously rap about black women as bitches and hoes deserving nothing but sexual domination were once toddlers and their first words for black women were mama and nana.”
To those who highly object to NWNW and call it a stupid idea, I have to wonder if you have been following what NWNW has been doing long enough to call the founder’s idea “stupid”?
As long as mom and dad are living together with their baby, why does it matter if they have this piece of paper that says they’re married? It turns out that marriage is more than just a piece of paper.
“I recently, did a program on my talk radio show about “Why are our babies…having babiesâ€? We barely had anyone call in for comments. I most certainly was perplexed by the notion that we’ve become so de-sensitize by this epidemic that no one thought it was an issue!”
“Minors are becoming parents and bringing children into unstable homes and some are getting fame and notoriety for it. Ew, that’s wack… “
“My daughter is only 6 and she has already told me several times about what’s going to happen when she has a baby.”
The struggles of the African American community have cost humanity. The wellbeing of our youth has been sacrificed at a very dear price. Unlike most people around the world, we do not have a tribe or clan we can attribute our heritage to and therefore this produces a restless displacement in the psyche of many [...]
“Often than not, the picture of out of wedlock births, especially among African-American women tend to be similar to “Claudine†starring Diahann Carroll or “Lean on Me†starring Morgan Freeman.”
The central thesis of my argument was and still is that the social costs of “out of wedlock” births is too high a price for us to pay.
I had a full term pregnancy without any complications besides an unstable
relationship. When my son was born he was not responsive, although he looked like a normal, healthy baby; there was something going on in his brain that I would not fully understand until later.”
“A new generation of nuclear households starts with black women and self-preservation, not just for personal sanctity but also for the mental health of their children. They don’t deserve the heartache that comes with being born into poverty.”
“I know marriage isn’t for everyone, it just isn’t. I’m not trying to argue that point. I’m trying to say for all of those folks who feel that co-habitating is the same as marriage well; I’m here to tell you that’s not true, not even close to true. “
“A stable partnership of any magnitude stands a better chance if each partner is willing and able to share responsibility and commitment to the children.”
“My son experienced two different households from birth. When I shared with him my plan to write for the NWNW blog-a-thon he was more than willing to have his perspective shared. “
“As an “actionist” I try not to whine about a problem but actually do something about it.”
NWNW is highlighting the reality of the obscene numbers of African “American out of wedlock births resulting in fatherless households. Too many fatherless kids fail, go to jail and have horrible lives. Stop talking about slavery stop blaming the white man go help raise your kids. Your excuse is not an excuse anymore!”
Ralph Richard Banks, author of the fast-selling book, “Is Marriage for White People”
“Unless and until key factors within the market fundamentally change, we can’t realistically expect the girls to change their behavior.”
“The facts are clear. The children of marriage parents do much better on nearly every scale of health, education, wellbeing and more. Marriage is the best environment to raise children. Marriage is where men and women can be all they want to be with the help and support of a caring spouse.”
“There is no need for you to have a baby when you are not married and have no one to help you love, care for and support that child’s growth and development.”
“I don’t think anyone can legitimately argue against people’s rights to make specific choices in life, but what if those choices, have an unfavourable impact not just on them but others and in this case their children? Are we simply to ignore all of that?”
“We need rites of passage in this world that don’t include having babies. We need girls to stop feeling like women because they have babies and boys to stop feeling like men because they’ve spread their seed.”
“TRY TO PRETEND Christelyn is not penning an IR book alongside getting this
movement going. Apples and zebus, people–macro, not micro.”
*Special thanks again to Ana Cedeno, instructor at Sixth Form Government School in Trinidad for presenting No Wedding No Womb to her students and inspiring them to apply it to their class projects.
I wrote this post in my column on Madame Noire in response to recent Census data the once again, shows the high rates of poverty amongst single parents. “The High Cost of Single Parenting: Anyone Surprised?” I’m not. Yet ANOTHER article that tells more of the truth. Parenting a child without a contributing partner is [...]
Special thanks to graphics designer,Lindsey Breeden, who did this wonderfully creative work of art pro bono. Look close. See the smiling baby? Share on Facebook
First of it’s kind online mentorship program targeting at-risk high schoolers and first year college students, matching them with mentors across the world through video, instant messaging and social networking.
Fellow NWNW participant, writer, radio host and attorney Jeneba Ghatt wrote a thoughtful piece, Marriage activists use Beyonce’s pregnancy to send message to single moms for the Washington Times community pages. It trended upwards to the most read piece that day.
His message went out to over 200,000 followers and was re-tweeted over 100 times.
Working list of the brave who will enter the battlefield. This year’s motto: “If you don’t see a problem, then…that’s the problem.”
“When I think about the molestation and my father abandoning me, I am filled with so much anger and hurt, it scared me and for years, I blocked it out. How can a man leave his child to fend for herself in such a harsh, cruel world? “
Lenny McAllister was fired from his popular radio show because he messed with the wrong black people. SMDH!
If you are as moved (and angered, and saddened) by this clip as I was, DO SOMETHING.
As usual, extreme conservatives alienate the very people who could help them carry an important message.
On this Father’s Day, let’s remember the importance of having one, and BEING one.
Rural Baby Mamas have the same obstacles and pain as Urban Baby Mamas… The issues are the same, and a woman, is a woman, is a woman… regardless of her geographical location here in the US. The issues were mostly about financial struggles, having to “do it allâ€, and not having the much needed emotional support.
‘No wedding, no womb’
Facing grim statistics, a neighborhood group in New York City and others are trying to do something about out-of-wedlock births
I was nine months pregnant with my son on my wedding day, one week from delivering our second child. I’d insisted on getting married because I couldn’t stomach the thought of having another child out of wedlock. But I knew the whole time that he was the wrong man to marry. I’d known that during the five years we lived together before the marriage.
My scream-out-loud moment came when I saw that a staggering 59% of African American women with multiple children had multiple fathers (National Longitudinal Survey of Youth: University of Michigan Institute for Social Research. Date of publication unavailable). My immediate thoughts were, can we go any lower? have we hit rock bottom? are we there yet?
There’s a smidge of profanity in this video, but the point she drives is worth a cuss or two. Share on Facebook
When being an “Uncle Tom” means being a functional and law abiding citizen, then we REALLY have a problem.
Why can’t we applaud strong black families when we have the opportunity? Why can’t we praise them for raising upstanding citizens and passing on that legacy to their kids?
Christelyn D. Karazin to speak at the 14th Annual Herstory Conference, Thursday, March 24.
Whether is Mike Huckabee, Bill Cosby, or Barack Obama, it seems that NOBODY is “qualified” to speak the truth.
Career-driven women with no balance are validated by their education and designer handbags. Cold, guarded, callous, they don’t need a man because they have diplomas.
A new survey from the Pew Research Center shows that an overwhelming number of people still believe that one of the most widespread “alternative” family arrangements out there–single motherhood–is bad for society.
I love it when people own their stuff and take responsibility. Â At some point, we all have to.
Speech Thomas, Sophia Angeli Nelson, Dr. Linda Malone-Colon, and Elizabeth Marquardt joins NWNW in the fight to quell the out-of-wedlock problem in the black community.
Take a look at who is in the movie, then get some insight into why I’m so passionate about this cause.
When someone alerted me to the article, I thought, well FINALLY! But take a special look at the stats on black children–looks like we ticked up to 73%!
What a mess. Â I only preview this event here, because this video will most likely go viral. Â It will because this is the STEREOTYPICAL impression of how young, black, uncouth and unmarried men and women often act when two mothers of one father get together.