Will.i.am Thinks Women Who Protect Themselves are “Tacky”

Will.i.am Thinks Women Who Protect Themselves are “Tacky”

How can he say this with a straight face?

Author : Christelyn Karazin

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Column first published in Madame Noire

By Christelyn Karazin

There’s a lot of spitting and cussing about wll.i.am’s comments during an Elle magazine interview about how “tacky” it is for single women to have condoms in their homes.

How vulgar.

I mean, really.  It’s soooo tacky to have some forethought and desire to preserve one’s health.

But I guess it’s not “tacky” that 73% of black children are born out-of-wedlock, many of whom were conceived because some black woman also believed it was tawdry to protect her vagina just in case her and her date got caught up in the heat of the moment.  And how crude of her to not want to be vulnerable to the high incidence of STD and HIV transmission within the black community?  Who the heck does she think she is, a white girl?

“His attitude is exactly that judgmental and condemning attitude that black men have about black women’s sexuality.  It puts black women in a box and makes the woman have to pretend to be something she’s not in order to meet the approval and acquire the affection of a man,” says Deborrah Cooper, relationship expert, radio personality and operator of SurvivngDating.com.

The sad truth is that young black women are force-fed this bull-donkey in church, and well-meaning family members that ‘good girls’ don’t buy condoms.   And when you get knocked up because there were no condoms in the side table, you can say it “just happened.”

The performer said this in his interview: “I just think, like, if you’re into someone and you guys get to that level, then that’s something you should converse about together and say, “Hey, maybe we should get some.”

Huh.  Okay; so you’re hot and heavy with a guy, clothes are off, and certain body parts are…uh…activated, and you expect people to stop getting down to have some type of DISCUSSION?

 

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  1. Piper
    May 10, 2011

    It is AMAZING to me that there has been available and reliable contraception since the 60s’ and women still don’t feel empowered enough to take control of their reproductive lives. I fault the church, especially the Black church and American hypocritical culture. These same women who beleive protection is somehow a sin, will say they also don’t believe in abortion. Ah, news flash! The church doesn’t condone premarital sex either. It’s all about keeping women and children in poverty and under control. Ask the man who pays child support to 3 women if he wished at least one of them had been prepared.

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    • thirtythoughts
      May 19, 2011

      How can you blame this on Black churches? I have been going to church since I was knee high to a duck and I have never been told that purchasing condoms or being “prepared” was wrong. The church preaches abstinence, as it should.

      You are correct, however, in placing the blame on American culture. It seems our society is still not comfortable with women engaging in and actually enjoying sex, and any woman who does is labeled a whore or loose. This is the problem, not Black churches.

      And this guy…is an idiot, but he is simply voicing how he feels about the situation, which is probably how a lot of men feel about this same topic. It’s an ignorant opinion, but a popular one, nonetheless.

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  2. futureshock
    May 22, 2011

    Wow! I did a report about teen pregnancy while I was in high school in 1981. One of the main causes was this exact thing, the hypocritical notion that for a woman to be prepared ahead of time to have sex means she is a whore.

    That was decades ago, and I am shocked that the same thinking exists today!

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  3. Onigiri
    June 2, 2011

    I’m not interested in will.i.am but his comments are the most ignorant comments since the representative from Kansas compares a woman being raped is like having a flat tire. Men always and will be denigrating women all around the world and yet they don’t know or they don’t want to know that they came to this world from a woman in the heat of the moment. They have to be grateful that their mothers didn’t use contraceptives otherwise the world would be a little bit better.

    Anyway, I protected myself when I was single with contraceptives and condoms. I ignore most of what people might think of me. They don’t think that I’m a very talented, hardworking with a sense of humor and intelligent individual, all they think is putting the label “slut” and keep going. Well, during that time I rather be a “slut” than irresponsible, heartless “slut” with a baby who can’t take care of.

    Women today have to be empowered to make their own decisions for their wellbeing. Not because of society, church and men. If you don’t want to be pregnant, don’t have sex. But if you want to have sex, protect yourself not only physically, but also emotionally.

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  4. Duchess
    June 17, 2011

    That is totally pathetic. Men make me sick sometimes with their hypocritical, misogynistic BS. I hope Will.i.am never gets laid again.

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  5. Duchess
    June 17, 2011

    I agree with everything Onigiri said. Amen to that.

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  6. Nina
    June 30, 2011

    He can say whatever he wants but I’ll keep carrying condoms. The non-sense, unfortunately, only works on women who are insecure.

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