Forgive me if I donâ€™t muster up the requisite amount of sympathy for Mr. Jean Pierre, the grieving father of the three children who drowned in the Hudson with their mother, 25-year-old LaShanda Armstrong.Â Donâ€™t get me wrongâ€¦as a mother of four kids myself, Iâ€™d be a basket case if I lost a single one of them.
But you know what?Â I suckled those four children until they were a year old.Â I ran to the doctor when they were sick.Â I volunteer at their school.Â I wash their clothes.Â Train them and sacrifice every single day for them.
Itâ€™s hard to muster the empathy Iâ€™d usually have for a parent who lost his entire progeny in one car dive into a murky river, but honestly I canâ€™t.
Not because he was a deadbeat.Â Or a cheater.Â Or allegedly abusive.Â Those parents are allowed to love and grieve for their children too.
But when I read theÂ New York Daily News that Pierre was trying to cherry-pick which of Armstrongâ€™s family members were allowed to attend the funeral, a little vomit came up in my mouth.Â If baby-daddy is trying to pass along blame to folks, heâ€™d better take a close look at what he did and didnâ€™t do that might have contributed to this tragedy.Â No one, I mean, NOT ONE of Armstrongâ€™s family members should have been excluded from paying their respects to children that they also loved, and perhaps cared for while Pierre was out chasing tail.
Read my complete editorial on Madame Noire here.