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This comments was repulbished by the permission of Kola Boof.
Quote was taken from Beautiful Struggler, who also given permission for her blog entry to run in it’s entirty.
What I LIKE about this movement is that it sends a very strong message to â€œyoung black girlsâ€ that their lives have value & worthâ€¨â€“and more importantlyâ€“that THEY should be the ones to demand/attach that value & worth.â€¨In my life, Iâ€™ve been a Whore, a Mistress, a WIFE & mother of two. I was recently engaged for a 2nd marriage. â€¨I enjoyed each role equally (in fact, I found being a mistress a little more agreeable to being a Wife) and I agree with the poster â€œBeautiful Strangerâ€ that being a â€œwifeâ€ isnâ€™t the grand be-all end-all achievement of the female existence. Itâ€™s really not. For me, just being a SMART woman ruling her own space of any type is the true ticket.â€¨But no matter how I think & feel as a Womanist/feministâ€¦I also know that the MAJORITY of our young black girls today have not been fully developed as people themselves..and I know that America is a vicious society that uses the souls of Black women as its scapegoat and nourishment. The society literally reflects its hatred onto us and then denies that weâ€™re worth a quarter all in one meticulous blow. Many times, Black Males are the biggest supporters and deliverers of that crippling blow. â€¨So with that in mind, I support NWNW if only for the fact that itâ€™s one more â€œrare & affirmingâ€ message to young Black women. A much needed reminder that if they donâ€™t have better choices than the drudgery being passed in Black Culture as â€œnormalâ€â€“then they can reject all of it and not fall for the prevailing â€œYou owe it to Black Men to do whatever they say and wantâ€”you owe it to the Movement, the Black Community, etc. etc.â€â€¨We NEED new messages and we need to plant better dreams in the heads of our daughters. As much as I love, champion & respect the Baby Mamaâ€™s, the Hoâ€™s, the mistressesâ€¦I canâ€™t be against the image, hope and support system of FAMILY.â€¨I think Iâ€™d die without my father & my family.â€¨Itâ€™s a wonderful goal.â€¨â€¨
. Kola Boof â€¨SEPTEMBER 23, 2010 AT 8:36 PM â€¨CLARIFICATION on my last postâ€¨__________â€¨What Iâ€™m saying is that most young Black girls today are not Strong/Together & donâ€™t have high self esteem. Therefore, what I like about this movement, is that it gives them PERMISSION to value â€œselfâ€ & demand better treatment. It also gives them a â€œlayout goalâ€ that can be used as an example of how to gain something more from men than a baby or a nut. The legality of marriage gives power and that is also a consideration.â€¨Iâ€™m all for women having babies on their own if they want thatâ€“but they need to carefully PLAN something like that and have the financial security to back it up. Thereâ€™s nothing wrong with having a baby alone.â€¨But it IS better â€œall aroundâ€ for Black women to start making Men treat them better. And this movement argues for young women to think about that. You CAN demand better sexual treatment & you DO have the right & the permission to put your own interests first and not the men.â€¨After all, the men canâ€™t get pregnant. So they can run from any situation. We donâ€™t have that luxury.â€¨OKâ€“thatâ€™s what I was saying MORE CLEARLY put.