Posts Tagged ‘no wedding no womb’

6 Sign #123 of the Apocalypse!!! — Me and Ann Coulter Agree on Something! [Relevant Video, Open Forum]

Sign #123 of the Apocalypse!!! — Me and Ann Coulter Agree on Something! [Relevant Video, Open Forum]

WOWOWOWOW. Just proof that the NWNW message works. We may not all agree on EVERYTHING, but some of us realize the fatherless problem in the black community is killing us. Segueing from her stance against gay marriage *sigh* to illegitimacy in the Black family, Ann lays it out for Marc Lamont Hill and the Larry [...]


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0 So You’re Ready For Another Kid? Well Where’s My Diamond?!?!?! ~ by @CindasMommy of “Uncommon Sense” [Support]

So You’re Ready For Another Kid? Well Where’s My Diamond?!?!?! ~ by @CindasMommy of “Uncommon Sense” [Support]

Before you decide to become a baby mama/daddy, remember it’s a whole lot It’s easier to send Junebug and his F-stricken report card to the other room for his daddy to take care of than it is to call his daddy Tyrone to help him come get his shit.


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0 Saving the Black Family from Destruction ~ by Anson Asaka of “New Possibilities” [Support]

Saving the Black Family from Destruction ~ by Anson Asaka of “New Possibilities” [Support]

Ultimately, we need a social revolution. Unfortunately, for many young black men, marriage is frowned upon. As reflected in today’s mainstream rap music, the pimp and player are glorified. Black male promiscuity is celebrated and the sisters are reduced to sex objects. That mentality promotes selfish individualism and perpetuates the destruction of the black family.


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0 The Easy, Sexy Silence of Privilege ~ by Kismet of “Nuñez Daughter”  [Criticism, Open Forum, Solutions]

The Easy, Sexy Silence of Privilege ~ by Kismet of “Nuñez Daughter” [Criticism, Open Forum, Solutions]

Unfortunately, over the course of the last week, the conversation grew increasingly vicious. Twitfam were getting blocked and swarmed, misconstrued and misunderstood. The vitriol came from both sides (Note to Self: Is “Google it if you want to” the new “Meet me outside”?) and none of it is fostered productive and healthy debate.


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0 Fear’s Grip ~ by Ben LaRiviere (a.k.a. loser078) of YouTube [Relevant, Video]

Fear’s Grip ~ by Ben LaRiviere (a.k.a. loser078) of YouTube [Relevant, Video]

No commentary from me, except that I LOVE Rachmaninoff’s The Rhapsody, I walked down the aisle to it.  Special thanks to NWNW participant, Jennifer Vaughn for finding this.  Makes for an interesting discussion, don’t you? Conjures all sorts of criticisms about women’s sexuality, even has a mildly violent scene. I wouldn’t recommend watching this around [...]


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2 What’s the Real Motive Behind “No Wedding, No Womb”? ~ by Bené Viera of “Writing While Black” [Criticism, Open Forum]

What’s the Real Motive Behind “No Wedding, No Womb”? ~ by Bené Viera of “Writing While Black” [Criticism, Open Forum]

“[Christelyn is] a mother of four children–three of them biracial–and has been married to her husband, Michael, (who just happens to be white) for eight happy, hectic years.” Hmmm. Now why would she need to profess to the world that three of her four children are biracial, and her husband is white?


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13 Follow Up … Tackling a Problem ~ by Black Girl in Maine [Support, 2nd Essay, Open Forum, Let’s Discuss Solutions!]

Follow Up … Tackling a Problem ~ by Black Girl in Maine [Support, 2nd Essay, Open Forum, Let’s Discuss Solutions!]

In some ways to merely say get married is a rather simplistic response to a rather real and serious problem. One of the questions being tossed around in the twitterverse after this online blitz has been what do we do next? In order to answer that question though and truly come up with meaningful solutions I think we must go back and look at what are the issues that have brought us to the point where the vast majority of African American children are born out of wedlock.


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0 A Non-PC Look At The Negative Impact Of African-American Single Motherhood ~ by Faith Dow of “Acts of Faith In Love & Life” [Support]

A Non-PC Look At The Negative Impact Of African-American Single Motherhood ~ by Faith Dow of “Acts of Faith In Love & Life” [Support]

Women may give birth to but cannot raise boys to manhood. What often happens in the black community has become the new normal but it’s an aberration. Due to the lack of protection many young girls are at serious risk. It’s one thing for an adult couple to be together but there are too many instances where the abandoned “woman” is barely 18 and the male who moved on is a good decade or so older. The women tend to be hardest on their own gender hence the phrase, “raise you daughters but love your sons”. It’s the epitome of reinforced sexism where the males are prized just for breathing and the females are told to prepare for “life”. Nothing will break the cycle when there’s no accountability, no acknowledgment of the huge imbalance and no reparations.


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24 You’re Married to a White Man! You’re Not Qualified to Lead! — My Reply to “Advocacy for the Self-Inflicted Genocide of a Stolen People?” by ggSpiritWrites [Criticism, Rebuttal, Open Forum]

You’re Married to a White Man! You’re Not Qualified to Lead! — My Reply to “Advocacy for the Self-Inflicted Genocide of a Stolen People?” by ggSpiritWrites [Criticism, Rebuttal, Open Forum]

Here is my comment from this post. I guess I should really thank these people for martyring me. Anyone in their right mind can see through this. Here’s the problem with your arguement about me and my husband (by the way, is so low a blow that I can’t even tell you) his ancestry did [...]


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4 Responsible Writing, Stereotypes, and Data ~ by April Joyner [Criticism, Open Forum]

Responsible Writing, Stereotypes, and Data ~ by April Joyner [Criticism, Open Forum]

[Note by CHRISTELYN] –> “My goal is to keep this debate honest. I don’t not wish to silence critics, but I think those who read someone’s INTERPRETATION of the NWNW movement should have the benefit of seeing both sides. I’m really, really trying to keep this fair. The conversation has gotten too important to suppress. Remember folks: If 72% of your house was burning down, would you ask for a program, argue statistics, or propose a study on how it started? If you possess the survival instinct, you would run like hell, or FIGHT like hell to put that fire out because that house means so much to you. Period.”


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0 What I Like About NWNW ~ by Kola Boof [Support, Comments]

What I Like About NWNW ~ by Kola Boof [Support, Comments]

What I LIKE about this movement is that it sends a very strong message to “young black girls” that their lives have value & worth
–and more importantly–that THEY should be the ones to demand/attach that value & worth.



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0 LeBron James and His Would Be Daddy ~ by Renee of “Womanist Musings” [Support]

LeBron James and His Would Be Daddy ~ by Renee of “Womanist Musings” [Support]

While I believe that the onus of this movement once again places the responsibility on women to bring about social change through the exercise of restraint, the idea that Black men need to own their responsiblities and stop making babies that they don’t intend to raise, is something that resonates with me.


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0 Thoughts on NWNW: Time to Address the Problem ~ by Trevor Hamm of “trevhamm.com” [Support]

Thoughts on NWNW: Time to Address the Problem ~ by Trevor Hamm of “trevhamm.com” [Support]

Martin Luther King said, “One of the sure signs of maturity is the ability to rise to the point of self-criticism.”


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18 Why No Wedding No Womb Doesn’t Work ~ by Jamilah Lemieux (a.k.a. Sister Toldja) of “The Beautiful Struggler” [Criticism, Open Forum]

Why No Wedding No Womb Doesn’t Work ~ by Jamilah Lemieux (a.k.a. Sister Toldja) of “The Beautiful Struggler” [Criticism, Open Forum]

I understand the spirit of what NWNW is attempting to do: restore dignity to Black women and create better living conditions for Black children. These are noble goals. However, even with evidence that married persons may have greater inroads to class mobility and a stable lifestyle and that children raised in two parent households tend to fare better than those of us raised by single parents…marriage alone can’t restore dignity to Black women or guarantee a better life for Black children. Furthermore, there is an anti-feminist moral code that is implied here that doesn’t sit well with me.


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0 I Cannot Defend or Condone Foolishness ~ by Flaming_star of “Single Girl in the Weird World” [Support]

I Cannot Defend or Condone Foolishness ~ by Flaming_star of “Single Girl in the Weird World” [Support]

You know as a woman of principle I cannot stand behind and defend or condone foolishness. And the tweets to the person who’s started this movement, Christelyn Karazin, have been more than ridiculous, they should be down right criminal. How anyone could defend birthing a child into this world without two parents in stable and loving household (and I don’t care if they are hetero and homo-sexual) is just shameful.


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1 OOW Births: A Strategic Disadvantage from a Health Perspective? ~ by Adwoa Boahene of “The K Dossier” [Event Post]

OOW Births: A Strategic Disadvantage from a Health Perspective? ~ by Adwoa Boahene of “The K Dossier” [Event Post]

My thesis is simple: out of wedlock births pose a strategic disadvantage for communities of color which translates into serious health consequences for women and their children.


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0 Whose Body Is This: A Statement on “OOW Births” in the Black Community ~ by Afua Boahene (a.k.a. smelodydiva) of “Conversations With My Sisters” [Event Post]

Whose Body Is This: A Statement on “OOW Births” in the Black Community ~ by Afua Boahene (a.k.a. smelodydiva) of “Conversations With My Sisters” [Event Post]

Some girls say, “If I give it up, boys will want
me.” Many girls were “looking for love” in all the wrong places, saying things like“ I don’t feel good about myself, “I don’t like myself,” or “I don’t feel pretty and that’s why I do it.”


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0 Fellas, Put a Ring on It Before You Start Making Babies ~ by Amani Channel [Event Post]

Fellas, Put a Ring on It Before You Start Making Babies ~ by Amani Channel [Event Post]

So what are my thoughts? People…. we have to do better. I like to think beyond color lines, but the problem is undeniable. The streets are raising too many of our young kings, and without a strong family unit the numerous problems that plague black communities (high drop out rates, high incarceration rates, etc.) will persist.


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3 Leaving the Burning House ~by Shecodes [Event Post]

Leaving the Burning House ~by Shecodes [Event Post]

What if your partner who was lying in bed with you looked you straight in your face and said: “What flames? What smoke? The problem is not that bad. Go back to sleep.” … all the while you clearly smell your hair getting singed by the overwhelming heat of the tongues of flames that were disintegrating your headboard… What would you do?


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0 Black Women — Devil’s Advocate: Are Black Males Real Men? ~ by Betty Chambers (a.k.a. GoldenAh) [Event Post]

Black Women — Devil’s Advocate: Are Black Males Real Men? ~ by Betty Chambers (a.k.a. GoldenAh) [Event Post]

Which brings me to this point: why mess with a male who statistically is predisposed not to marry, provide protection, bring resources to the relationship, offer support, or bother to raise his own children? Jill Scott may wince at “brothas” who are marrying non-black women, but she willingly had a child for one with a I-Am-Irresponsible neon sign over his head.


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1 Open Letter to a Young Black Lady Thinking About Having Sex ~ by Carmen Dixon Rosenzweig of “All About Race” [Event Post]

Open Letter to a Young Black Lady Thinking About Having Sex ~ by Carmen Dixon Rosenzweig of “All About Race” [Event Post]

I still remember how delicious it feels the first time a boy you like, likes you back…and seems to like you best. You feel seen, you feel understood, you feel all womanly and urgent. And that’s why it’s so important that every boy and man you date, understands that what YOU NEED to make it in this world, is to not get pregnant young. www.allaboutrace.com


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0 He Blinded Me With Science: Are Serial Moms Chemically Hooked on Sex? ~ by Cherryl Aldave of “Heavy Mentalist” [Event Post]

He Blinded Me With Science: Are Serial Moms Chemically Hooked on Sex? ~ by Cherryl Aldave of “Heavy Mentalist” [Event Post]

Lisa doesn’t know as she basks in the after rays of their lovemaking is, that chemicals released by her own body have made her a ready target for repeating the pattern that’s already left her a single mother–twice.


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0 A Message from a First Time Father ~ by Citizen Ojo of “The Desultory Life & Times of a Public Citizen” [Event Post]

A Message from a First Time Father ~ by Citizen Ojo of “The Desultory Life & Times of a Public Citizen” [Event Post]

… “just because you come from a single parent home doesn’t mean you can’t be successful. But based on research, children have greater odds of success if they grow up in a two family household (i.e. mother and father in the home).”


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0 “When was the last time anyone has told you, that it is all for you” – Maya Angelo ~ by CM Whitener of “Your Boyfriend’s Best Girlfriend” [Event Post]

“When was the last time anyone has told you, that it is all for you” – Maya Angelo ~ by CM Whitener of “Your Boyfriend’s Best Girlfriend” [Event Post]

Who told you that you should be alone in this world without stability? Who told you that you are nothing more than a breeder? Who told you that you don’t deserve love and to have it everlasting? Who lied to you and said you are not worth it? Do not believe them. yourboyfriendsbestgirlfriend.blogspot.com


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0 Parents, Children Need to Dream a Bigger Dream ~ by Danielle Belton of “The Black Snob” [Event Post]

Parents, Children Need to Dream a Bigger Dream ~ by Danielle Belton of “The Black Snob” [Event Post]

My mother taught me about sex when I was nine-years-old. Nine. Years before my first period or puberty. Years before I was interested in having sex. Years before peers and television would try to feed me misinformation.


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1 Don’t Be Desperate and Dumb by Falling for the Baby Momma Okey Doke ~ by Deborrah Cooper of “Living the Single Life” [Event Post]

Don’t Be Desperate and Dumb by Falling for the Baby Momma Okey Doke ~ by Deborrah Cooper of “Living the Single Life” [Event Post]

Yeah, I know 75% of Black children are being raised in single parent homes. And lots of the young women having babies now are represented in that sad statistic. So you might think that since everyone else is doing it, it’s okay for you to do, too. One thing I learned from my parents is to never ever do anything just because other people are doing it. Why? Because most people are stupid, and if you follow blindly after them, you’ll end up being stupid too.


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0 We Must Stop Teaching Our Sons to Sow Their Wild Oats ~ by Fred Goodall of “Mocha Dad” [Event Post]

We Must Stop Teaching Our Sons to Sow Their Wild Oats ~ by Fred Goodall of “Mocha Dad” [Event Post]

Dads are quite focused on protecting their precious little princesses from unplanned pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and heartbreak caused by some silly boy. Almost every father with daughters that I know plans to purchase two items: a shotgun and a chastity belt. The shotgun is to intimidate his daughter’s suitors. If the gun doesn’t scare off the boys, then the chastity belt will be the next line of protection. But when it comes to their sons, many men refuse to hold them to the same standard of sexual purity.


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0 My Thoughts: A Cycle That Needs to Be Stopped ~ by Jamie Fleming of “for colored gurls” [Event Post]

My Thoughts: A Cycle That Needs to Be Stopped ~ by Jamie Fleming of “for colored gurls” [Event Post]

Like I said before, I think this is a huge issue. Before I go any further I want to mention a couple of things: I don’t knock any woman who makes the decision to be a single mother if she can afford to and is capable of caring for the child (a lot of women want children but don’t want to wait for marriage because of their age– I get that), but I don’t think that’s the case for most black women.


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2 Sista, Stop Settling for the Sperm ~ by Jenee Darden of “Cocoa Fly” [Event Post]

Sista, Stop Settling for the Sperm ~ by Jenee Darden of “Cocoa Fly” [Event Post]

We all know the sista who settles for the sperm. She’s working the register at JC Penny and making moves at JP Morgan. She’s our girlfriend in love with the guy who isn’t ready to settle down. But she gives her womb and heart to him anyway. She’s the neighbor who takes out her frustrations from her past mistakes on her child. “You no good just like your daddy!” www.cocoafly.com


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0 A New Statistic: You’re Not the Exception ~ by Jennifer Vaughn (a.k.a. Aoide-Melete-Mneme) of “à la mode de les Muses” [Event Post]

A New Statistic: You’re Not the Exception ~ by Jennifer Vaughn (a.k.a. Aoide-Melete-Mneme) of “à la mode de les Muses” [Event Post]

Girl, it’s time for a reality check. The “it” in “It can’t happen to me” happens all the time. Pretending it won’t is the worst defense. Here’s an alternative strategy: Hold your ground.


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1 The Days of The Oops ~ by Jimi Izrael [Event Post]

The Days of The Oops ~ by Jimi Izrael [Event Post]

When I read articles blaming black men for the rising tide of single mother births, I never see the schematics of the solar-powered, remote controlled leg-opener black men are given just after puberty that compels young black ladies to spread their legs.


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0 In China It Is Illegal to Have a Child Out Of Wedlock ~ Jo Gan of “Life Behind The Wall” [Event Post]

In China It Is Illegal to Have a Child Out Of Wedlock ~ Jo Gan of “Life Behind The Wall” [Event Post]

This traditional way of thinking use to be OUR way of thinking, not so long ago. I can still remember my grandmother telling me, “the best birth control was an aspirin, hold it between your knees.”


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0 Thought Provoking Perspectives ~ by John T. Wills [Event Post]

Thought Provoking Perspectives ~ by John T. Wills [Event Post]

After slavery ended and freed people were subjected to the immoral practice of segregation; the African American society was the envy of all other cultures because they married, stayed together and family was the unity that was their salvation. The parent’s main function was the survival of the children they reared. It was necessary for our culture to value this concept in order to survive the wickedness of the cruelty imposed upon our people by law. If not for this foundation and parental guidance it could have been a death sentence for their children. This commitment, often times, is missing in the parental responsibility within many quarters of our community to which our ancestors would be appalled.


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0 Juliana Norwood of OurWeekly Newspaper Endorses No Wedding No Womb! [Opinion, Event Post]

Juliana Norwood of OurWeekly Newspaper Endorses No Wedding No Womb! [Opinion, Event Post]

Juliana Norwood, staff writer for OurWeekly I personally feel that the level of baby-mama/daddy-ism is in the African American community is truly a tragedy. I completely agree that there are many different reasons why these situations occur, such as many socioeconomic factors, but I believe it is far beyond the time that we start putting more weight [...]


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0 Baby by You? No Thanks! ~ by Keshia Robertson (a.k.a. crush’ed) of “a crush a day ♥” [Event Post]

Baby by You? No Thanks! ~ by Keshia Robertson (a.k.a. crush’ed) of “a crush a day ♥” [Event Post]

At twelve I looked old enough to be a mother even without having kissed a boy. Throughout all of my teen years I looked old enough to be a mother because young black women every day are becoming mothers.

Over 70% of black women, girls younger than me, my age, older than me, the girl who use to do my hair was I was younger, my old best friend, elementary classmates—all of these women are mothers now or will be mothers at some point—single mothers.


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1 NWNW Isn’t About Bashing! ~ by Kimberly R. Woods [Event Post]

NWNW Isn’t About Bashing! ~ by Kimberly R. Woods [Event Post]

Before folks think the No Wedding No Womb movement is about bashing black single parent families, I want to present another informational gem…


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What If You Could Pick Your Parents? ~ by Kris Johnson [Event Post]

Try to imagine yourself as a child. If you could have planned your own origins, what family would you choose? It’s almost guaranteed that you’d pick a doting, father with an impeccable reputation. A protector, a man who takes care of his family, a good man. For a mother, you may pick…


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0 Do Better By Your Children! ~ by Lauren Bailey of “Lola Gets…” [Event Post]

Do Better By Your Children! ~ by Lauren Bailey of “Lola Gets…” [Event Post]

Just think about it, don’t you value your unborn children? Don’t you
think your future progeny deserve to have the best life possible? So,
if you have high standards for the lives of your future children, you
should have high standards for the father of these children as well!


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0 A Letter to Smart and Strong Women of All Colors, Hope, and Longing ~ by Dr. LeslieBeth Wish of “Love Victory” [Event Post]

A Letter to Smart and Strong Women of All Colors, Hope, and Longing ~ by Dr. LeslieBeth Wish of “Love Victory” [Event Post]

This advice is based on my research about strong women and love. My interest began when I was a child and was raised by a woman whose love saved me. Her name is Daisy, and she is an African-American-Cherokee woman who taught me to hold back my kisses until the right boy came along.


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5 Marriage Is the New Poop Word ~ by Lisa Mason [Event Post]

Marriage Is the New Poop Word ~ by Lisa Mason [Event Post]

Heaven forbid that you “offend” single mothers or suggest that it’s better for a child to have two good parents instead of one.


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0 Single Mom by Choice Says, “Baby Mammahood Must Cease!” ~ by LorMarie [Event Post]

Single Mom by Choice Says, “Baby Mammahood Must Cease!” ~ by LorMarie [Event Post]

First I need to declare that I’m an unapologetic SMC. For those of you unfamiliar with this acronym, it stands for single mother by choice.


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3 The OOW Problem Has Morphed Into Black-on-Black Crime ~ by Martin Lindsey [Event Post]

The OOW Problem Has Morphed Into Black-on-Black Crime ~ by Martin Lindsey [Event Post]

No more lynch mobs performing murder and mayhem on us for public entertainment. No, we’re way past the culture of the Roman Coliseum in America. In contemporary society we are breeding our own guaranteed generational curse.


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1 The Strong Black Woman… ~ by Ana Hodges-Gazawi of “Quiskaeya” [Event Post]

The Strong Black Woman… ~ by Ana Hodges-Gazawi of “Quiskaeya” [Event Post]

“I AM their father! I AM their mother! I AM all they need! They don’t need that good for nothing bastard!” A strong black woman would shriek in my office at DCF in such a loud manner her voice could be heard bellowing through the halls. A strong black woman in corporate America was far more demure, but would display much the same mannerisms whilst explaining “What can he do for my children? He can’t even maintain a job. What kind of father could he possibly be to them?”


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3 Single Motherhood — An American Crisis ~ by Rev. Raymond C. Dix, Jr. [Event Post]

Single Motherhood — An American Crisis ~ by Rev. Raymond C. Dix, Jr. [Event Post]

Single mothers do not become so without the activity of males. Of course, many single mothers trusted the words of love from the father of their children. These men are too often unemployed or underemployed, not able nor willing to care for, nurture or lead a family. At the news of pregnancy, as if startled, these brothers run. They may not vacate physically, but they often detach themselves from all emotional and financial support of the women they impregnate.


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0 Free Lesson #23: Sex Causes Pregnancy! ~ by Roslyn Hardy Holcomb [Event Post]

Free Lesson #23: Sex Causes Pregnancy! ~ by Roslyn Hardy Holcomb [Event Post]

I know you’re asking how do you know if he’ll marry you if you get pregnant. Two things, you watch his behavior and you ask him. Men that already have children outside of marriage are to be avoided at all costs. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. If he didn’t marry that woman why on earth do you think he’ll marry you?


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0 Dear Grandpa: A Legacy of Commitment ~ by Salima Singletary of “On My Mind” [Event Post]

Dear Grandpa: A Legacy of Commitment ~ by Salima Singletary of “On My Mind” [Event Post]

I worry about the future of Black Americans. I worry that our professional, financial and political gains–generations of effort– will be undone by personal recklessness. www.foreverloyal.wordpress.com


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0 “Crack the Code” ~ by Shellie R. Warren of “ ‘On Fire’ Fast Movement ” [Event Post]

“Crack the Code” ~ by Shellie R. Warren of “ ‘On Fire’ Fast Movement ” [Event Post]

Shellie is an Author and Public Speaker. Her books are “Inside of Me: Lessons of Lust, Love and Redemption” and “Pure Heart: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Integrity”. Her websites are: http://xxxchurch.com/gethelp/women/ “On Fire” Fast Movement ________________________________________________ A couple of nights ago, I was talking to a male friend of mine. (Again single ladies, get some platonic [...]


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0 A Womb Is Not a Tomb ~ by @Soulful1 of “Post-Racial: Millenium 2100″ [Event Post]

A Womb Is Not a Tomb ~ by @Soulful1 of “Post-Racial: Millenium 2100″ [Event Post]

All I want is the coochie, I aint lookin to get married. Ladies, if you feel the same as I do, then let’s get it on and quit playin. However, if you desire to find a mate for life, giving it up every Saturday night isn’t going to win you many wife-material points. You gave up your sexuality for free, I suspect you do that for anyone with a car, drink, and a motel room.


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0 Is the Black Community Facing a “Baby Daddy” Epidemic? ~ by Stephanie M. Watts of “The Sauda Voice” [Event Post]

Is the Black Community Facing a “Baby Daddy” Epidemic? ~ by Stephanie M. Watts of “The Sauda Voice” [Event Post]

It’s not much of a guess because the evidence is all around us. Each day we step foot outside our doors we see it. On the street. In the supermarket. In the park. On the playground. In our very own families. Women. Black women. We are the overwhelming majority of those caring for and raising black children. Alone. I ask you, family. Why?


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0 That Doggone Blue Pill … ~ Tia Thomas of “The World of Miss Glamtastic” [Event Post]

That Doggone Blue Pill … ~ Tia Thomas of “The World of Miss Glamtastic” [Event Post]

Everywhere we turn, we are getting force-fed red pills, especially when it comes to the huge number of children born out-of-wedlock (OOW.)


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NWNW Promo ~ by Tim Alexander (a.k.a. ScreenTime on YouTube) [Video, Rated R for Language, Event Post]

“In my usual edgy fashion, I took it upon myself to delivery and heavy-handed message for those of you who like it hard. Just keeping it real, ya’ll! Warning: If you don’t like cussing, don’t click it!” –Tim Alexander, creator of the upcoming film “A Mother’s Love” and from the film maker who brought you “Diary of a Tired Black Man”


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1 Why Do Children Need Their Fathers? ~ by TJ Michaels [Event Post]

Why Do Children Need Their Fathers? ~ by TJ Michaels [Event Post]

Why do we put more planning into our next vacation than we do in planning our families? And why are we willing to accept less than what we want when it comes to ‘the ring’? The answer- because black women are fed the “you’re not worthy of a good guy” crap from a young age. It’s rare that black girls, in general, are made to feel special. www.tjmichaels.com


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0 A Father Reflects on How His Wife and Daughter “Make It All Work.” ~ by Torrey Spears [Event Post]

A Father Reflects on How His Wife and Daughter “Make It All Work.” ~ by Torrey Spears [Event Post]

“…all of the fantastic memories over the past three years came rushing to my head. From the dirty diapers and late night feedings, to dressing up in nylon crowns and toasting plastic spoons while playing “tea party with the King and Princess”. Memories that will stay with me through her scholastic years, her endeavor into the world, and when she blesses someone with her love and begins her own family.” www.torreyspears.com


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0 First-Hand Witness of Emotional Trauma ~ by Vanessa Jean Louis of “Afroconservative” [Event Post]

First-Hand Witness of Emotional Trauma ~ by Vanessa Jean Louis of “Afroconservative” [Event Post]

Many of us in the blogosphere (from different political persuasions) are writing in tandem about this issue as a result of the deafening silence from the media, academics, and so called “Black leaders” who refuse to acknowledge the pernicious psycho-social effects on children who are a product of unwed motherhood.


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0 The Backbone of Black America Is Now Speaking ~ by Vonmiwi Culvera of “Divalocity™” [Event Post]

The Backbone of Black America Is Now Speaking ~ by Vonmiwi Culvera of “Divalocity™” [Event Post]

How long will we wait for the government and our elected officials to have the courage to speak out on the self-annihilation of the family structure?


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0 Stop Living in the Day to Day and PLAN ~ by Vonnie of “Socialite Dreams” [Event Post]

Stop Living in the Day to Day and PLAN ~ by Vonnie of “Socialite Dreams” [Event Post]

Why is there no outrage at the lack of accountability for black men and their responsibility for their offspring? When will it all stop being glossed over or swept under the rug, or worse yet, completely blamed on the women?


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The New Baby Daddy – Revised and Revisited ~ by Zabeth of “IR Dating Coach” [Event Post]

At this time, we are beyond the point of critical mass- more than 70% of all black children are born out of wedlock- this is a fully fledged epidemic that we cannot continue to normalize and make excuses for. This “trend” has now gone beyond the ghetto and has now become normalized in the AA community- a rite of passage in many ways.


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1 Having Children Out Of Wedlock Has Become Synonymous with Black Women in the Media ~ by Kristina Daniele, Co-Founder of “Moms of Hue” [Event Post]

Having Children Out Of Wedlock Has Become Synonymous with Black Women in the Media ~ by Kristina Daniele, Co-Founder of “Moms of Hue” [Event Post]

It’s impossible to believe that it is when staring at a glaring statistic such as 70% of children born in the Black community are born out-of-wedlock. The status is glorified in movies, in videos, and by newspapers and other media outlets. We have to admit that having children out of wedlock has become so synonymous with Black women, that it is assumed we all wear the title of Baby Momma even when we don’t. Remember the FOX- First Lady Michelle Obama drama during the campaign?


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1 So. Darn. Tired. ~ by Lorriane Spencer, Songwriter of NWNW Theme Song [Event Post]

So. Darn. Tired. ~ by Lorriane Spencer, Songwriter of NWNW Theme Song [Event Post]

I realize that “No Wedding No Womb” has caught on and the overwhelming majority feels this is a positive dialogue. But as I read about one child after another killed at the hands of their mother’s boyfriends, husbands or shack up honeys, I see that some women who don’t care to declare NWNW many times endanger their children. Yes failure to see the importance of NWNW can have devastating ramifications for any children that the baby mama already has.


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0 A Comedian’s Take on NWNW ~ by Jacquetta Szathmari [Event Post]

A Comedian’s Take on NWNW ~ by Jacquetta Szathmari [Event Post]

Everyone is making such a big deal about this whole single-parent/out-of-wedlock “epidemic” in the black community. Apparently, 72% of all African-American children are born out of wedlock. First of all big deal and second of all get with the times—who uses phrases like “out of wedlock”.


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Our Daughters Deserve Better ~ by Jeneba Jalloh Ghatt of “JenebaSpeaks.com” [Event Post]

This past weekend, my husband and I were chauffeuring my children and niece about to weekend activities and the kids were in the back seats chatting. At some point, my 6-year old niece announced that she was going to be a mommy when she grew up. Just then, my 8-year old spoke up and said, “no, you’re going to get married first and then you and your husband are going to have a baby.”


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0 My Teen-Aged Daughter Won’t Be Having a Baby ~ by Karyn L. Folan of “Diary of a Black and White Family” [Event Post]

My Teen-Aged Daughter Won’t Be Having a Baby ~ by Karyn L. Folan of “Diary of a Black and White Family” [Event Post]

For some reason, there is an attitude in the black community that makes it perfectly acceptable to have a baby without a husband, or without the support of even a committed partner.


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0 Is It Worth It? Black Women & Out-Of-Wedlock Births ~ by Reinvention O’Womahood of “Secret Woman’s League” [Event Post]

Is It Worth It? Black Women & Out-Of-Wedlock Births ~ by Reinvention O’Womahood of “Secret Woman’s League” [Event Post]

The most common move to solve social lifestyle epidemics is simply to make it so common that it could almost be called “okay”. When a problem becomes the norm then the less people are offended by it, and dismiss everything that may come under the situation as not a very big deal. It’s a slow but very effective mode to get things “accepted” into society. Look at many controversial subjects flaunted in the media. They make so many of them appear to be so commonplace that the average person will become less sensitized too it, and may even begin to favor it. Viewpoints toward it change, lessen in rigidity till it is almost completely approved by society.


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0 Avoiding Baby Momma Drama – The Hard Way ~ by DNLee of “Southern­Playalistic­Evolution­Music” [Event Post]

Avoiding Baby Momma Drama – The Hard Way ~ by DNLee of “Southern­Playalistic­Evolution­Music” [Event Post]

Who else is discussing the other reality: the right and responsibility to make some very, very hard decisions about unwanted/untimely pregnancies.

As much as No Wedding No Womb advocates for marriage before parenting, I contend it must also include:

* educating and empowering young men and women to be sexually responsible;
* providing them every opportunity to embrace themselves sexually yet simultaneously provide them the tools to avoid pre-marture parenthood; and finally
* it must embrace and support women who decide not to have babies – after becoming pregnant.

Is NWNW willing to there?


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Sistas, Let’s Lead the Cause ~ by Ebony (a.k.a. Sista) of “Hello, Negro” [Event Post]

We are some of the strongest people on the planet and we often have to make some serious decisions. One of the toughest decisions can be who we share our bed with, our womb with. However, I know a LOT of women who have made a conscious decision to wait until they are married to conceive.


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And Who Was It That Said That a Daddy’s Presence Wasn’t Important? ~ by Anonymous #1 [Event Post]

One man could create such disproportionate circumstances; Daddies, engage in your children’s lives because their very futures depend on it.


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0 Why Two Parents Count, Especially if You’re Black ~ by Black Girl in Maine [Event Post]

Why Two Parents Count, Especially if You’re Black ~ by Black Girl in Maine [Event Post]

In the US, children born out of wedlock have become a common occurrence and the truth is there are lots of reasons why couples choose not to marry. Though in the Black community the consequences are creating what I am sure scholar’s years from now will call the lost generation or maybe even the lost generations.


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0 Where Is That Village? ~ by Tiya Cunningham-Sumter of “The Black Wives’ Club” [Event Post]

Where Is That Village? ~ by Tiya Cunningham-Sumter of “The Black Wives’ Club” [Event Post]

I know, for me personally, I would have really benefited from growing up with my father in my house. There are daily questions little girls have that only daddy can answer.


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I Came from a Broken Home ~ by Nickey Lopes of “A Kinky-curlz’s Diary” [Event Post]

After talking with my favorite teacher the other day she brought it to my attention that being born out of wedlock is not the issue. Being born from two people who are not financially stable, mentally capable or emotionally capable to raise a child is the true travesty. So am I saying that having children out of wedlock is okay? No! I’m emphatically stating something else to the contrary; children need to be raised in a two parent home with a male and a female who are capable in all facets of life to rear children.


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1 NWNW on The Grio!

NWNW on The Grio!

Tuesday, September 22, 2010 “100 bloggers” of note will join forces for a project titled “No Wedding, No Womb!” started by blogger and social activist Christelyn Karazin.


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1 NWNW Participants!

NWNW Participants!

Liberal and conservative, Republican and Democrat, Christian, Jewish and Muslim, e pluribus unum (out of many, one)


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