The topic of online activism, and the difference between dissenters and saboteurs came up during a recent conversation. I believe that far too many African-American bloggers are dangerously naive about the difference between these two categories. I believe this is because most of them have never had the opportunity to participate in an actual, sustained movement (as opposed to agitating about a single individual or incident).
WOWOWOWOW. Just proof that the NWNW message works. We may not all agree on EVERYTHING, but some of us realize the fatherless problem in the black community is killing us. Segueing from her stance against gay marriage *sigh* to illegitimacy in the Black family, Ann lays it out for Marc Lamont Hill and the Larry [...]
Here is my comment from this post. I guess I should really thank these people for martyring me. Anyone in their right mind can see through this. Here’s the problem with your arguement about me and my husband (by the way, is so low a blow that I can’t even tell you) his ancestry did [...]
[Note by CHRISTELYN] –> “My goal is to keep this debate honest. I don’t not wish to silence critics, but I think those who read someone’s INTERPRETATION of the NWNW movement should have the benefit of seeing both sides. I’m really, really trying to keep this fair. The conversation has gotten too important to suppress. Remember folks: If 72% of your house was burning down, would you ask for a program, argue statistics, or propose a study on how it started? If you possess the survival instinct, you would run like hell, or FIGHT like hell to put that fire out because that house means so much to you. Period.”
There are reasons besides the pushâ€™s barely masked antifeminism to be ambivalent about this whole endeavor. The movement has the stunty feel of holding funerals for â€œniggerâ€ or stomping on hip-hop CDs (â€˜member those?) with explicit lyrics; itâ€™s taken a tricky issue and reduced it to a bunch of folks being showily indignant.
Juliana Norwood, staff writer for OurWeekly IÂ personally feel that the level of baby-mama/daddy-ism is in the African American community is truly a tragedy. I completely agree that there are many different reasons why these situations occur, such as many socioeconomic factors, butÂ I believe it is far beyond the time that we start putting more weight [...]
Try to imagine yourself as a child. If you could have planned your own origins, what family would you choose? Itâ€™s almost guaranteed that youâ€™d pick a doting, father with an impeccable reputation. A protector, a man who takes care of his family, a good man. For a mother, you may pick…
This is very hard for us to talk about. Itâ€™s so hard that we have made a tough heart-wrenching situation into one to be celebrated. We wave a banner, we shout it from the mountain tops, we sing little ditties about it, and we high five each other on Fatherâ€™s Day. Single-motherhood is a hard and heavy crown to wear.
Single mothers do not become so without the activity of males. Of course, many single mothers trusted the words of love from the father of their children. These men are too often unemployed or underemployed, not able nor willing to care for, nurture or lead a family. At the news of pregnancy, as if startled, these brothers run. They may not vacate physically, but they often detach themselves from all emotional and financial support of the women they impregnate.
I know youâ€™re asking how do you know if heâ€™ll marry you if you get pregnant. Two things, you watch his behavior and you ask him. Men that already have children outside of marriage are to be avoided at all costs. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. If he didnâ€™t marry that woman why on earth do you think heâ€™ll marry you?
Why do we put more planning into our next vacation than we do in planning our families? And why are we willing to accept less than what we want when it comes to â€˜the ringâ€™? The answer- because black women are fed the â€œyouâ€™re not worthy of a good guyâ€ crap from a young age. Itâ€™s rare that black girls, in general, are made to feel special. www.tjmichaels.com
I realize that “No Wedding No Womb” has caught on and the overwhelming majority feels this is a positive dialogue. But as I read about one child after another killed at the hands of their mother’s boyfriends, husbands or shack up honeys, I see that some women who don’t care to declare NWNW many times endanger their children. Yes failure to see the importance of NWNW can have devastating ramifications for any children that the baby mama already has.
Everyone is making such a big deal about this whole single-parent/out-of-wedlock â€œepidemicâ€ in the black community. Apparently, 72% of all African-American children are born out of wedlock. First of all big deal and second of all get with the timesâ€”who uses phrases like â€œout of wedlockâ€.
It is imperative that our women, especially black women, begin to take their own pulses to see if they are breathing or not! Too many women are spiritually dead and some act as if they are mentally dead, because they are constantly allowing men to not acknowledge their humanness or their womanhood.