The topic of online activism, and the difference between dissenters and saboteurs came up during a recent conversation. I believe that far too many African-American bloggers are dangerously naive about the difference between these two categories. I believe this is because most of them have never had the opportunity to participate in an actual, sustained movement (as opposed to agitating about a single individual or incident).
Bishop Eddie Long, a mentor for young boys, had a “ritual” for them declaring them his “spiritual sons” in which his “children” got necessites and goodies at the horrifying price of submitting to him sexually.
These people are basically Crazy Uncle Larry (who doesn’t have one?) coming up with the bright idea–at the July Fourth barbecue, no less!–of holding a fireworks display IN THE LIVING ROOM
WOWOWOWOW. Just proof that the NWNW message works. We may not all agree on EVERYTHING, but some of us realize the fatherless problem in the black community is killing us. Segueing from her stance against gay marriage *sigh* to illegitimacy in the Black family, Ann lays it out for Marc Lamont Hill and the Larry [...]
Here is my comment from this post. I guess I should really thank these people for martyring me. Anyone in their right mind can see through this. Here’s the problem with your arguement about me and my husband (by the way, is so low a blow that I can’t even tell you) his ancestry did [...]
[Note by CHRISTELYN] –> “My goal is to keep this debate honest. I don’t not wish to silence critics, but I think those who read someone’s INTERPRETATION of the NWNW movement should have the benefit of seeing both sides. I’m really, really trying to keep this fair. The conversation has gotten too important to suppress. Remember folks: If 72% of your house was burning down, would you ask for a program, argue statistics, or propose a study on how it started? If you possess the survival instinct, you would run like hell, or FIGHT like hell to put that fire out because that house means so much to you. Period.”
There are reasons besides the push’s barely masked antifeminism to be ambivalent about this whole endeavor. The movement has the stunty feel of holding funerals for “nigger†or stomping on hip-hop CDs (‘member those?) with explicit lyrics; it’s taken a tricky issue and reduced it to a bunch of folks being showily indignant.
Juliana Norwood, staff writer for OurWeekly I personally feel that the level of baby-mama/daddy-ism is in the African American community is truly a tragedy. I completely agree that there are many different reasons why these situations occur, such as many socioeconomic factors, but I believe it is far beyond the time that we start putting more weight [...]
Before folks think the No Wedding No Womb movement is about bashing black single parent families, I want to present another informational gem…
Try to imagine yourself as a child. If you could have planned your own origins, what family would you choose? It’s almost guaranteed that you’d pick a doting, father with an impeccable reputation. A protector, a man who takes care of his family, a good man. For a mother, you may pick…
Heaven forbid that you “offend†single mothers or suggest that it’s better for a child to have two good parents instead of one.
No more lynch mobs performing murder and mayhem on us for public entertainment. No, we’re way past the culture of the Roman Coliseum in America. In contemporary society we are breeding our own guaranteed generational curse.
This is very hard for us to talk about. It’s so hard that we have made a tough heart-wrenching situation into one to be celebrated. We wave a banner, we shout it from the mountain tops, we sing little ditties about it, and we high five each other on Father’s Day. Single-motherhood is a hard and heavy crown to wear.
Single mothers do not become so without the activity of males. Of course, many single mothers trusted the words of love from the father of their children. These men are too often unemployed or underemployed, not able nor willing to care for, nurture or lead a family. At the news of pregnancy, as if startled, these brothers run. They may not vacate physically, but they often detach themselves from all emotional and financial support of the women they impregnate.
I know you’re asking how do you know if he’ll marry you if you get pregnant. Two things, you watch his behavior and you ask him. Men that already have children outside of marriage are to be avoided at all costs. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. If he didn’t marry that woman why on earth do you think he’ll marry you?
Why do we put more planning into our next vacation than we do in planning our families? And why are we willing to accept less than what we want when it comes to ‘the ring’? The answer- because black women are fed the “you’re not worthy of a good guy†crap from a young age. It’s rare that black girls, in general, are made to feel special. www.tjmichaels.com
I realize that “No Wedding No Womb” has caught on and the overwhelming majority feels this is a positive dialogue. But as I read about one child after another killed at the hands of their mother’s boyfriends, husbands or shack up honeys, I see that some women who don’t care to declare NWNW many times endanger their children. Yes failure to see the importance of NWNW can have devastating ramifications for any children that the baby mama already has.
Everyone is making such a big deal about this whole single-parent/out-of-wedlock “epidemic†in the black community. Apparently, 72% of all African-American children are born out of wedlock. First of all big deal and second of all get with the times—who uses phrases like “out of wedlockâ€.
One man could create such disproportionate circumstances; Daddies, engage in your children’s lives because their very futures depend on it.
It is imperative that our women, especially black women, begin to take their own pulses to see if they are breathing or not! Too many women are spiritually dead and some act as if they are mentally dead, because they are constantly allowing men to not acknowledge their humanness or their womanhood.
Sisters, Why Are You Throwing Away Your Value? ~ by Sophia Angeli Nelson of “I Am My Sister’s Keeper†[Event Post]
I think it is time we stopped making excuses and turning a blind eye to what has truly become a moral crisis in the black community. Iaskblog.com
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