Black In the Bay State – Fly, Fabulous and Fed up
Changing the black perspective one entry at a time

straw arguments against NWNW, separating myths from facts

Myth – Your husband will beat you. Your kid is better off.

Fact – If you pick a good husband in the first place, you don’t have to worry about that. Damaged men who put their hands on women should be alone or in jail. There are warning signs! He doesn’t come home and randomly punch you one day. He works his way up to that.

Myth – Fatherless (black) kids can become president.

Fact – Obama had a ‘dad’: his grandfather. Being raised by his grandparents gave him a two-parent home even if they were not his biological parents.

Myth – We hate black men (hahaha my favorite!)

Fact – Telling people to do what they’re supposed to do is not “hating” them. You implying that it’s inconvenient for them to take responsibility, is saying that you have little faith in their abilities to be adults. Maybe I should ask if YOU hate them and why you don’t think much of them.

Myth – You’re just bitter cause you want kids.

Fact – Any idiot can breed. Having kids is not an accomplishment; raising them correctly is the real accomplishment. I’m bitter because “baby mama” has become synonymous to blackness.

Myth – You are not offering any solutions.

Fact – We tell you every day: “Chose quality men.” That’s a start. Quality man = Quality husband = Quality father. AKA he wont’ beat your ass AKA he won’t drop his kids like hot potatoes.

Myth – You’re classist.

Fact – Maybe you should be more selective. Not everyone can have a six-figure salary, but we should try to stack the odds in our kids’ favor.

Myth – “My kids have everything they want.”

Fact – Your kid is 5, you don’t know that. You’d be surprised to find out what they really wanted as kids once they turn 20. They don’t care about the child support check that your baby daddy is being forced to cough up. Maybe they just wanted to sit on their dad’s lap at the family barbecue like the other kids could.

Myth – Her husband is overseas.

Fact – (Try not to let this crash course in statistics blow your mind) With 70% of black kids being OOW, odds are, the only sea her (non) husband is over, is across the pond dodging his responsibilities.

Myth – It’s not your business.

Fact – If I’m doing her baby daddy’s job (my taxes paying for WIC instead of him taking her grocery shopping) it becomes my business.

Myth – It’s not your business

Fact – If her choices put her kid at a higher risk of becoming a criminal, because he develop all the issues that often accompany fatherless children, then it becomes my problem because I have to live in society with him.

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