So. Darn. Tired. ~ by Lorriane Spencer, Songwriter of NWNW Theme Song [Event Post]

So. Darn. Tired. ~ by Lorriane Spencer, Songwriter of NWNW Theme Song [Event Post]

I realize that “No Wedding No Womb” has caught on and the overwhelming majority feels this is a positive dialogue. But as I read about one child after another killed at the hands of their mother’s boyfriends, husbands or shack up honeys, I see that some women who don’t care to declare NWNW many times endanger their children. Yes failure to see the importance of NWNW can have devastating ramifications for any children that the baby mama already has.

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By Lorraine Spencer, songwriter of “No Wedding No Womb” theme song

I realize that “No Wedding No Womb” has caught on and the overwhelming majority feels this is a positive dialogue. But as I read about one child after another killed at the hands of their mother’s boyfriends, husbands or shack up honeys, I see that some women who don’t care to declare NWNW many times endanger their children. Yes failure to see the importance of NWNW can have devastating ramifications for any children that the baby mama already has.

I just read about poor little Aiyden Davis, 2 years-old beaten to death by the mother’s abusive boyfriend who was allowed to discipline him. He didn’t know his ABC’s at 2 years old and punishment by death was his sentence. Why these women let their new men discipline their children is beyond me. They are not even the fathers and may hold resentment toward the child. Not all the time as there are exceptions to every rule. I acknowledge that many many men make great husbands and step fathers to a child or children who came in the package with mommy. But I am talking about the typical situation where the women are putting their children at risk just be being around the new honey. Several bloggers have spoken on this issue.

This reminds me of a terrible experience that I shared last year with some of the ir/bwe bloggers. I wanted some fish from a well known establishment. First my mind was on getting a parking space, because I could already see the line out the door. I could not help but notice this one big man seemed to be pushing, pulling on, and hitting a little girl 7 or 8 year-old girl. I thought to myself: “Oh, he is playing with his daughter.” When I finally parked and got in line, I saw the tragic story of what was really happening. Now this was a big burly man and for the purposes of this story, I am going to refer to him as “Gorilla”! Said 350 pound gorilla was being abusive to this little girl whose mother was right there letting him do it. She was not his daughter as she referred to him by his name and not Daddy. I guess the line and heat got too much for her because this so-called mother told the gorilla to deal with it, put her hands up and walked outside.

This woman had to have seen her boyfriend abusing her precious daughter because I saw it from the street when I was parking the car. Now that she was gone, I moved up right behind the gorilla. He was pushing the little girl away by thumping her chest and pulling her back by her arm. The poor thing was being tortured by this subhuman and tried to play it off with smiles and phony laughter. Then the gorilla turned and saw me watching him out of the corner of his beastly eyes. It was if he cared for one second that he was being watch, and then boom, he was back to hurting this little girl. The line had not moved for about 5 minutes so Magilla was still in his element. But now, he appeared to hug the girl, putting his massive, 50 pound arm around her little body as if to say: “Sorry I was just playing with you.” But as I further scrutinized, he was squeezing her little face. He was squeezing so tightly that she was trying to pull away but just could not free herself from that big baboon. When he did let go, it was to push her away and poke the little thing in her sides.

I wanted so badly to say something and was about to but his turn was up and I was saved from being cussed out or even physically hurt as one blow from the monster would have sent me backwards to the floor. And I knew NONE of the many men around would do anything to help me as they did nothing to help the little girl. How this woman could endanger her child is not a mystery to me any longer. She appeared to be an attractive woman but for whatever reason was with this monster of a dbr.

This scenario is so predictable. The innocent little girl will end up DEAD or taken away from the mother due to some horrific incident that brings her to the attention of the Child Welfare system. And if they can’t find a relative with whom to place her (that is not always the best scenario, but for the sake of keeping the family together they do this) then she will be in foster care and eventually put up for adoption. This little girl was sweet and innocent young thing, but she is in danger of being permanently lost because of her dbr mother and the environment of which is a product. I hope I don’t hear about this little girl dying at the hands of this man or another dbr who her mother just has to have around because she can’t bear to be alone.

Whoever chooses to adopt this girl (if she would be so lucky) will already have years of therapy to undo what this dbr has been allowed to do her who knows for how long. Is a single, adoptive mother ready to take on this challenge? Who knows how many men this girl has seen in and out of her mother’s miserable life? I pray for her protection but she is most likely already damaged.

By the way, this is no slight on foster care parents. Some people do have a great heart for children in these hapless situations and can handle all that comes with it. My hat’s off to them. But then there are those in it solely for the money making the situation for these kids far worse than it already is. Let’s not even mention the ones who perpetuate the abuse these kids were escaping in the first place. At the end of the day, this is yet another way of how failing to declare NWNW can hurt children.

NOTE: No offense to the animal kingdom for reference to the primates either.

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    October 27, 2010

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