Single Motherhood — An American Crisis ~ by Rev. Raymond C. Dix, Jr. [Event Post]

Single Motherhood — An American Crisis ~ by Rev. Raymond C. Dix, Jr. [Event Post]

Single mothers do not become so without the activity of males. Of course, many single mothers trusted the words of love from the father of their children. These men are too often unemployed or underemployed, not able nor willing to care for, nurture or lead a family. At the news of pregnancy, as if startled, these brothers run. They may not vacate physically, but they often detach themselves from all emotional and financial support of the women they impregnate.

Author : Raymond C. Dix, Jr.

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Reverend Dix is the Senior Pastor at Berean Fellowship Church, and his website is:

Raymond Dix Ministries, Inc – Merrillville, IN

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Several times in past columns, I refer to the disheartening statistic in the African American community that seven of every ten black children are born to unwed mothers. This dynamic produces a cycle of poverty and pain that influences incarceration, drug abuse, domestic violence, lack of education and other maladies plaguing us as Black Americans.

By no means is the single-parent phenomenon germane only to black Americans, in fact the number is rising among all ethnicities. However, the number of single parents among black Americans is woefully disproportionate and produces tragic, if not genocidal results.

I offer as evidence the state of education in urban America. I speak with many teachers, and most of them lament the lack of parental involvement in education. For every single mother who struggles to work, stay off the system; rear her children alone with champion-like courage, there exists ten who do not. I do not write this as criticism of single motherhood per se, but as a call to reality for black Americans everywhere.

Single mothers do not become so without the activity of males. Of course, many single mothers trusted the words of love from the father of their children. These men are too often unemployed or underemployed, not able nor willing to care for, nurture or lead a family. At the news of pregnancy, as if startled, these brothers run. They may not vacate physically, but they often detach themselves from all emotional and financial support of the women they impregnate.

For this reason, those single mothers who walk their children to school, teach them to be responsible and introduce them to moral virtue, deserve our respect. However, for those who continue to make decisions based solely on their emotions or hormonal reactions we must challenge them to re-think their “motus operandi” or the manner in which they live.

Pay attention fair maidens, at some point you must realize that as the recent Hollywood movie stated, “He’s Just Not That into You”. If the man you seek has no job, seeks no job and sends you to work every day while your mama watches the child or children you have with him, then he is not that into you. If you desire a man who participates in criminal activity and calls it his “hustle” then you need your head examined.

Some, who are unfamiliar with history beyond the sixties, will have us believe that the state of the black family is such due to the lasting effects of slavery. This sounds good to those who feel victimized by our nation and need an excuse to support failure to launch. Not being a victim, I do not for one minute by the idea that black families suffer some dysfunction because of slavery; not in 2010. We have far too many examples of grandparents and great-grandparents, facing difficulty much greater than our own, which succeeded in building strong families with lives marked by success. Strong families in the black community were the rule and not the exception as recent as 50 years ago.

Therefore, my sisters, stop concerning yourself with whether a person who cannot even wear pants correctly is “into you”. Get into yourself, your God, your future and most importantly, the lives of your children.

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  1. nate
    October 7, 2010

    Never blame the woman. She is not head the man is!

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  2. Andrew Patterson
    October 25, 2010

    Absolutely correct.

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