In case you missed Zo Williams’ “No Wedding No Womb” show on Thursday, November 18 on the FOXXHOLE on Sirius Satellite Radio, here’s a clip of my commentary on the program, which was primarily focused on abstinence. While NWNW is not SPECIFICALLY an abstinence program, we support WHATEVER WORKS to turn the tide on the [...]
Look at the data. Out-of-wedlock pregnancies are a broad spectrum problem across most demographic groups. It has real ramifications for family income levels, educational attainment and more. As an investor, one of my goals is for the average family to be as successful and financially independent as possible. The pregnancy crisis threatens that goal.
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The Black Public Health Student Network (BPHSN) of The George Washington University (GW) was established to develop Black leaders in the Washington, DC public health community. We exist to support and guide Black public health students in academic, professional, service and social endeavors, to encourage cooperation and closer ties between Black students of GW’s School of Public Health and Health Services (SPHHS), to establish a vehicle through which our concerns are brought to bear on GW policies, and to advocate for sound public health for the community at large.
The majority of Black Americans will not have equal footing with most White Americans for at least another two generations. Social change takes time, lots of time. Thus, waiting for structural change instead of focusing more heavily on personal responsibility will continue to give us the same (if not worse) results that Black Americans currently see in most of our communities.
Is Marriage Still for Everyone? by David Lapp, Family Scholars.org Over at First Things, I haveÂ an essay in which I argue that, a changing economy notwithstanding, marriage remains a vital institution for people from all classesâ€“including the less-educated. I also suggest that itâ€™s precisely traditional norms like lifelong marriage and bearing children within marriage that [...]
Few of the women connected their poor choice of partner with identifying with their mother, so you are not alone if you are surprised, too, with the lack of success in your love life. Itâ€™s hard, after all, to really leave home completely, and becoming even a little like your mother is one way of keeping her close.
Many believe the “village” concept of raising a child is not working, but it cannot work if we do not “absorb foreign experiences” that will lead to our expansion as a people. Thus, there is more than one way to raise a child. As mothers and fathers, we have to create support systems to keep us sane, to nurture our children when we are absent or in addition to, to offer advice, and to create a community.
The effects of single-mother stress: Her social challenges eventually manifest into physical challenges. High blood pressure, gestational diabetes, and maternal obesity, just to name a few. Her immune system becomes even more compromised because she is not eating well.
Moynihanâ€™s report presaged the â€˜tangle of pathologyâ€™ would tighten in the black community unless the government intervened. The black underclass did not need overt, systemic racism to continue the downward spiral; it did not need racism and discrimination to perpetuate poverty within the black community. It was doing a perfectly respectable job on its own.
Look beyond the now and at the future that you want. Itâ€™s challenging not to give in to the new romanticized and over sexualization of reality. But far beyond what I see now is everything that I truly desire for my future. Think about what you want and be careful.
My name is India N. Parson and I am a 24 year old Business Marketing Student from Virginia who passionately supports NWNW. I donâ€™t have any children and everyday for that I feel like an exception. In my community 1 out of every 5 friends I have already have a kid(s) out of wedlock, black [...]
And now the whole world knows… http://www.bbc.co.uk/i/p009yfwg/ From the BBC It’s hard finding your man in America if you’re black and single. Recent US studies have shown that the number of college educated black women getting married has decreased by a third since the 1970s. Although part of a wider trend, African American women are [...]
**Note**NWNW is non-denominational and non-partisan. However, we believe in highlighting topics that offer potential solutions to a widespread problem. Nikki And The City http://www.nikkiandthecityadventures.blogspot.com/ Original NWNW post here Share on Facebook
Practically all African American legislators and policy makers have (wisely) stayed away from the NWNW fray. To engage in such a controversial, and quite personal, topic would serve to alienate a good portion of their constituents. Ironically, many of these same constituents are suffering the most from the problems Karazin and her supporters believe stem from homes headed by single mothers.
Claudine, a single mother of six living in Harlem, falls in love with a garbage collector, Rupert. Complicating their relationship is the fact that marrying would cause her to lose the welfare that helps her support her children and her eldest son’s distrust of Rupert.
Real Clear Politics October 1, 2010 It’s the Marriage Rate, Stupid By Mona Charen Income inequality, we learn from the Census Bureau, has reached the highest level since data were first collected on the subject in 1967. Poverty has increased dramatically, with one of seven Americans now falling below the poverty threshold. Additionally, the Census [...]
In the third week of this “movement”, it is still quite early to determine what are substantive outcomes of its premise. While the founder, Karazin admits that she does not have all the answers, it will be interesting to see how exactly she will propose to get black people married before having children when there appears to be no particular game plan in place.
I was hardly happy when I was told I was going to have a child. In fact, I nearly had a panic attack. My stomach tightened. My mouth dried out. My heart pounded out against my rib cage and I didnâ€™t think there was enough air in the world to fill my lungs. For a second I began to hallucinate that I was asleep dreaming that I was awake.
The topic of online activism, and the difference between dissenters and saboteurs came up during a recent conversation. I believe that far too many African-American bloggers are dangerously naive about the difference between these two categories. I believe this is because most of them have never had the opportunity to participate in an actual, sustained movement (as opposed to agitating about a single individual or incident).
So I felt like I was being attacked but realize the truth hurts. Raising a child in a single parent household is not ideal. As parents we model behavior for our children. Right now he sees only his mother, juggling so many things. I don’t think that I’m a bad parent, but sometimes I wonder what life would be like with a partner in this journey of parenthood.
Black women have to look at deeper issues concerning their values, the choices they are making (especially choosing bad men), etc if they want to really deal with this problem. Too many Black women see people like Beyonce (and others in Black urban circles- particularly in Hip Hop- and yes I hate them all), as their role models.
HEY GIRLS, LISTEN UP — YOU HAVE A CHOICE Veronica Miller @veronicamarche http://veroniiblog.blogspot.com/ I was 15 years old. It was September, school had just started back up, and a classmate (Weâ€™ll call her Vanna), was asking me if my boyfriend and I were still together. â€œYep,â€ I said. â€œStill together.â€ â€œEven through the whole summer?â€ [...]
There was an ugly hint of entitlement to a lot of the discussions. Nobody is really entitled to ‘safety nets’–especially in a time when this country is finding it hard to pay for the ones we have, and go to war, and pay contractors, and encourage green energy, and…
This anonymous blog post was sent to me by a fellow NWNW participant. Kind of like the John Kerry, “I was for it before I was against it,” just vice versa. She makes good points, though. I think that if we can move beyond some of the vitriol and address the central issue, we’ll all be better off and I can cancel my prescription for Xanax.
All along, I was thinking that there must be something wrong with us as a group if we can seriously consider shooting ourselves in the foot like this by promoting single motherhood. There is no shame in single motherhood. Let me repeat that for you really dense people out there: There is no shame in single motherhood. Itâ€™s not a matter of shame. It is a matter of people advising others against taking a risk that usually does not work out well.
happy black woman This week, the Twittersphere has been on fire in response to the words of two separate bloggers. First, Christelyn Karazin kicked off the No Wedding, No Womb (NWNW) movement. Then, over on Madame Noire, LaShaun Williams gave us 8 Reasons to Date a White Man. While the two bloggers are unrelated in [...]