This again, confirms what has been my own experience as well as everyone else I know who has “played house.”
From USA Today
For young couples who have never been married, cohabiting may seem like a hassle-free way of testing a relationship before tying the knot. And for those who already have been through a divorce, who have children or other significant assets, cohabiting may seem like a way to avoid costly legal entanglements if the relationship doesn’t work out.
More and more, such couples’ assumptions are mistaken.
“They have to do everything they’d have to do in a divorce, except maybe not legally, to separate their lives,” says Janet Laubgross, a clinical psychologist in Fairfax, Va. “They’ve built a life together. They have to divide friends. They’ve got to divide property. There are a lot of strong emotions â€” anger, bitterness, resentment. It’s very similar to divorce.”
A study published online in February in theÂ Journal of Family Issues, based on interviews and focus groups involving 192 people in their late 20s, found marked gender differences.
Women generally saw cohabitation as a transition to marriage, while men used terms such as “test drive” to determine whether there was potential for a longer-term relationship.
Women used “love” as a reason to live together three times as often as men did, while men cited “sex” as a reason to live together four times as often as women did, the study found.
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