In Tuesday, the beautiful Nia Long was a guest host on The View. Long, 40, discussed the difficulty of being a single mother and her desire for a husband. She mentioned bypassing marriage during her twenties and having a child in her thirties because it simply â€œâ€¦was time;â€ and, it was O.K. because that is how she was raisedâ€¦by a single mom.
This type of situation is all too familiar to modern black women, over two-thirds of who having been raised by single mothers. Mothers who likely had them at young ages and encouraged one of two things: career or grandbabies. Both extremes that have contributed to the epidemic of illegitimate children conceived in the black community. Career-driven women with no balance are validated by their education and designer handbags. Cold, guarded, callous, they donâ€™t need a man because they have diplomas. Mama took so much from men that she raised her daughter to be a witch. By the time they realize an M.B.A. is not going to keep them warm at night, their 40th birthday is around the corner and the reproductive clock is winding down. As a result, we have financially stable women who simply decide to make themselves mothers by way of sperm donation or boyfriend, adding yet another child to the 72 percent population of black children who are born out of wedlock.
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