Kalediscope: Breaking the myths of single parenthood.

Kalediscope: Breaking the myths of single parenthood.

I love it when people own their stuff and take responsibility.  At some point, we all have to.

Author : Christelyn Karazin

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Christelyn is married with four children.

My Twitter buddy and staunch #NWNW supporter, @Soulful1 brought this blog post to my attention.  I’m only posting parts and bits, and you can read the article in its entirety here.

I love it when people own their stuff and take responsibility.  At some point, we all have to.

Breaking the myths of single parenthood.
Written by: Kalediscope


It took me awhile to write this post because I didn’t want to make it personal. I wanted to be charming and witty and make folks ‘lol’ when they read my words. I’ve deleted my words four different times because nothing was flowing right.

So now I write.

It is very hard breaking the myths of single parenthood because I’m in the throws of it. That is why this post is so difficult. Let me be clear this is not how I saw my life. Freshman year at Tuskegee University I had BIG plans for myself, none of which included my current situation. But I fell in ‘love’ with a boy and didn’t bother to insist on a condom and POOF! I am now a mama. My drafting/interior design dreams have been pushed to the side because I no longer come first. Yes there are times where I feel myself falling into the deep abyss of depression and self righteousness because of the choices I’ve made but I fight it. With everything I have. Fight or perish is how one of my close friends described it. And that’s what I do.


No woman/man is meant to do this alone. Children should be raised as a family; nuclear or otherwise. My daughter is lucky enough to have her great grandparent in her life who is instrumental in her upbringing. But yes, I would like to be married and have more children. I want to have someone to come home to, to cook for and just be a family. The older I get, the better I get at being a single parent the more I begin to understand that I need help. These young girls boasting about how they don’t need a man are lying to themselves. Every (heterosexual) woman needs a man especially in the black family structure. The sooner we as a culture begin to embrace this fact things will begin to turn around. Yeah yeah I know I’m on a soapbox but, hell it’s needs to be said. I hate feeling like a statistic because I got to birthday parties/school functions alone. I just want to make it known, this is from a mind of a single parent someone sharing their thought process so hopefully you won’t have to go through it. Like Hov.

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