My Twitter buddy and staunch #NWNW supporter, @Soulful1 brought this blog post to my attention. Â I’m only posting parts and bits, and you can read the article in its entirety here.
I love it when people own their stuff and take responsibility. Â At some point, we all have to.
Breaking the myths of single parenthood.
Written by: Kalediscope
It took me awhile to write this post because I didnâ€™t want to make it personal. I wanted to be charming and witty and make folks â€˜lolâ€™ when they read my words. Iâ€™ve deleted my words four different times because nothing was flowing right.
So now I write.
It is very hard breaking the myths of single parenthood because Iâ€™m in the throws of it. That is why this post is so difficult. Let me be clear this is not how I saw my life. Freshman year at Tuskegee University I had BIG plans for myself, none of which included my current situation. But I fell in â€˜loveâ€™ with a boy and didnâ€™t bother to insist on a condom and POOF! I am now a mama. My drafting/interior design dreams have been pushed to the side because I no longer come first. Yes there are times where I feel myself falling into the deep abyss of depression and self righteousness because of the choices Iâ€™ve made but I fight it. With everything I have. Fight or perish is how one of my close friends described it. And thatâ€™s what I do.
No woman/man is meant to do this alone. Children should be raised as a family; nuclear or otherwise. My daughter is lucky enough to have her great grandparent in her life who is instrumental in her upbringing. But yes, I would like to be married and have more children. I want to have someone to come home to, to cook for and just be a family. The older I get, the better I get at being a single parent the more I begin to understand that I need help. These young girls boasting about how they donâ€™t need a man are lying to themselves. Every (heterosexual) woman needs a man especially in the black family structure. The sooner we as a culture begin to embrace this fact things will begin to turn around. Yeah yeah I know Iâ€™m on a soapbox but, hell itâ€™s needs to be said. I hate feeling like a statistic because I got to birthday parties/school functions alone. I just want to make it known, this is from a mind of a single parent someone sharing their thought process so hopefully you wonâ€™t have to go through it. Like Hov.