Free Lesson #23: Sex Causes Pregnancy! ~ by Roslyn Hardy Holcomb [Event Post]

Free Lesson #23: Sex Causes Pregnancy! ~ by Roslyn Hardy Holcomb [Event Post]

I know you’re asking how do you know if he’ll marry you if you get pregnant. Two things, you watch his behavior and you ask him. Men that already have children outside of marriage are to be avoided at all costs. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. If he didn’t marry that woman why on earth do you think he’ll marry you?

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Free Lesson #23: Sex Causes Pregnancy

I know. Helluva concept isn’t it? Absolutely stunning. I was surprised too when I discovered this…IN MIDDLE SCHOOL. I realize that this is a fairly absurd topic for a free lesson, but I’ve been counseling women and girls for a long time and it’s become evident that sizable percentage of the population doesn’t know this or at least they’re acting as though they don’t know. I’ve heard all the reasons an unplanned pregnancy occurs and y’all all know how I feel about reasons. We’ve all seen the studies and the correlations between out of wedlock births and a variety of social ills. There’s not a helluva lot I can do about the ones that are already here, but I can most assuredly tell you how to protect yourself and your future offspring. Fortunately considering the impact it can have, there are really only two simple steps to avoid being left to rear your children alone.

#1 Use Birth Control or Abstain from Sex: This is actually so fundamental that I’m almost embarrassed to mention it. Not only should you use birth control, you must use a redundancy system. What’s a redundancy system?

Step 1: Old boy has to wrap it up. Period. If you can’t insist that a man use a condom you are clearly too immature to be having sex. Any man who is not willing to protect you is not worth sexing. Period. But a condom is not good enough.

Step 2: You have to use birth control as well. That is where the redundancy comes in. There are million methods out there. Pick one (or two or three) and use it every time.

Step 3: And here’s an old-school method that can be very effective—no sex when you’re ovulating. Obviously this is your most fertile period. Don’t know when you’re ovulating or think checking your cervical mucus is gross? Then you lack the maturity to be having sex. Learn your body, it’s your friend, not a cum dump for some guy.

I don’t know of a single woman who has gotten pregnant while using a redundancy system. Not one. Too much you say? Not romantic? Fuck romance. When has romance ever fed a kid or sent it to summer camp? Feel free to throw your genitalia on the craps table and pray you don’t get snake eyes if you prefer. Every time you get naked with some dude you’re taking a risk that can ruin your whole life. Nobody is responsible for protecting you and your life but you. Personally I’ve never encountered a dick that was worth throwing my life away for. And if you have you must not have much of a life. Which leads me to the next step…

#2 Don’t Sex Anyone You Wouldn’t Marry: Or who wouldn’t marry you. You want to guarantee you will get pregnant? Lay down with some dude you wouldn’t be seen out in public with. You’ll be pregnant before that jackass can call Tyrone. No I don’t know why but that shit goes together like pickles and Now or Laters. Decent, hard-working men with six-figure incomes, can’t get a woman pregnant with someone else’s sperm, but Ray-Ray on the block who’s as empty as a pocket with five baby-mamas to boot can knock a woman up with the speed of a Jedi on meth. Don’t ask me why, but losers make super-duper armor penetrating sperm. But when you think about it it makes perfect sense. What the hell else do their bodies have to do? They’re not stressed by mundane things like regular employment, maintaining a household or any of the other responsibilities the rest of us deal with. Hey, it’s just a theory, but it’s all I’ve got.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, crazy sex is good sex. Just remember, it’s fertile sex as well. Biology is working against you. All organisms have only one purpose: to perpetuate the species. So your eggs are just sitting there like a fifteen-year-old at a Jonas Brothers concert. Your ovaries don’t have a brain, they have no way of knowing that unlike every other species on the planet human women will actually have sex with a man even if she has no clue that he’ll stick around to rear and protect any offspring. Hell, even chickens don’t do that. And take it from me; chickens are dumb; mean, but dumb. That rooster has to prove himself worthy before the hen will raise her tail feathers. Human women? Not so much.

Now I know you’re asking how do you know if he’ll marry you if you get pregnant. Two things, you watch his behavior and you ask him. Men that already have children outside of marriage are to be avoided at all costs. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. If he didn’t marry that woman why on earth do you think he’ll marry you? (Please don’t email me a bunch of exceptions. This magical thinking exceptionalism is what got us to a 70% out of wedlock rate in the first place.) Further, avoid men who come from single-mom homes. Those men typically don’t have a clue about gender roles and expectations (like marrying and caring for the mother of your children). In their world out of wedlock is the norm. Not a good look. Again, I’m sure there are exceptions but are you going to bet your life and the lives of your unborn children on it? What behaviors are you looking for? My mama used to say, “If he’s meant to be yours there won’t be no mess behind him.” Honorable men behave in an honorable manner. They take care of their business, so bill collectors won’t be calling. He won’t have other women after him with all kinds of drama. Most of his friends will be stable men heading in a reasonable direction. He’s not hanging out in clubs and strip clubs. He’s where he’s supposed to be, doing what he’s supposed to be doing. He won’t be trying to rush you into bed because honorable men know what an awesome responsibility that is.

Next, before you reach the point of having sex you have to ask him what will happen if you get pregnant. If he talks about some foolishness like, “Baby I’ll be careful,” or “You know I’ll take care of my kids.” Walk away and don’t look back. I don’t care how careful you are, sex causes pregnancy. Remember, men aren’t stupid. They know damned well that most women want marriage, especially in that situation. You are taking a far greater risk than he is and if he doesn’t appreciate that, then he should never see you naked.

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