ENRAGED!! Documentary Tells the REAL Story of How Fatherlessness Kills the SOULS of our Children

ENRAGED!! Documentary Tells the REAL Story of How Fatherlessness Kills the SOULS of our Children

If you are as moved (and angered, and saddened) by this clip as I was, DO SOMETHING.

Author : Christelyn Karazin

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Christelyn is married with four children.

Anybody who see this clip and finds an excuse for how having a missing parent doesn’t KILL YOUR SOUL, step up so I can knock you down.  Look at this girl.  Stop acting like this is OKAY.  THIS IS NOT NORMAL.  THIS IS NOT OKAY.

WAKE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  1. Nikki J
    July 27, 2011

    I saw this on Madame Noire and knew it’d be here. Deadbeat dads really strike a nerve with me. I’ve been blessed to have two parents who love, and support us. But I see the affects absent dads leave on their children, from my family members and friends. I will definitely donate, and see this when it comes out.

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  2. ew
    July 30, 2011

    this clip almost made me cry. my parents were together until i was 14 & my father’s drug addiction overtook his ability to be a parent. I went through a period where I felt like I hated my father & I was so angry w/him for leaving. I’ll be 30 in a year & I’ve since reconciled w/my father but it’s been a struggle & it’s not the same as it was b4. I’m glad that there is something out there that’s giving a voice 2 the millions of Black children (male or female) about the effects of their father’s absence. My question to these fathers is why? I’m curious what the response was. Definitely a must see!!

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  3. Magister Veritatis (RNI)
    July 31, 2011

    This video only tells half the story. I’m curious why nobody talks about the horrible choices women make picking men. It’s nice to sit back and criticize the men for not being fathers, but nobody ever addresses the issue of women sleeping with the wrong men. I recently wrote an article on my blog about a sister who was 26 with six children by five different men. I suppose those men forced her to have sex, huh? When will black women step up and be accountable for their actions? If you stop picking horrible suitors a lot of this mess would cease.

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    • Christelyn Karazin
      July 31, 2011

      We (or at least I do), but the problem is this, Magister, if women do not have fathers around to show them what a good man looks like, how’s she supposed to know? Same with the boys–if no one but BET is around to show them how to be men, how can they be good partners and fathers? It’s a sticky, cluster-cuss of a perpetual cycle.

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    • stratosphere
      August 23, 2011

      I’m so sick of this “excuse.” ALL humans exhibit poor judgment in matters big and small–biology makes the burden, in this domain, fall to the female. How in the world does a mother’s bad decision make it okay for a father to completely neglect financial, emotional, and other responsibilities for his offspring, though? One can point fingers at the mother all day long, the child is still his responsibility as he is the other EQUAL partner in bringing him/her into the world. PERIOD. The child shouldn’t suffer for the bad decisions of the mother or father. The logic that says that’s a due punishment for the child is sorry.

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  4. Averdra
    August 21, 2011

    I’d like to point out, that in truth, it isn’t actually necessary to have a father to teach you how to find a good man. What’s needed is self respect and respect in our relationship within the family. If the mother is able to love and honor her daughter, and teach her how to be a descriminating person, to expect more out of how she is treated, then she will decide for herself that a male who does not treat her right, isn’t a good choice for the father of her children.
    There are two problems a woman has to overcome to achieve this. If she’s in the situation to be raising her girls as a single mother, she likely already having issues with how she was raised and realizing she deserves to be treated better than what she has been experiencing so far. She has issues and will likely continue to share those issues with her own children to perpetuate the cycle.
    The second problem she’s going to encounter is she mixed her genetics with a person who behaves the way he has. And the likelihood is, it’s going to affect the personality of her own kids and make them prone to behaviors that she will also find difficult to deal with.
    I really believe the solution is a lot of internal soul searching to deal with the pain and patterns of repeated abuse and abandonment that women have been going through since the dawn of the world. If a woman can overcome her own hate, her own anxiety and her own inability to function – if she can learn to accept and love herself and to respect those she seeks to grow so they in turn respect themselves and create lives that are different from what she came from.
    I wish people would learn that everyone does things for a reason. Anger and hate and fear are really not necessary, they do nothing but cloud your vision.

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    • Christelyn Karazin
      August 29, 2011

      it isn’t actually necessary to have a father to teach you how to find a good man. What’s needed is self respect and respect in our relationship within the family. If the mother is able to love and honor her daughter, and teach her how to be a descriminating person, to expect more out of how she is treated, then she will decide for herself that a male who does not treat her right, isn’t a good choice for the father of her children.

      Sorry, that’s no necessarily true. A mother can not make a girl feel like princess in the way a father can. Period. End of sentence.

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  5. Amber
    September 4, 2011

    Dear Christelyn:

    I don’t know if your still reading comments from this post, but I just had to throw my cents in the ring. I’m a product of a single mother and I do not know my father. From what I understand my father left my mother a few months after my birth. There is one picture of me with him when I was a baby and since then I have met him maybe three times in my 20 years. Now I watched this entire clip and saw how admittedly you felt this told the true story, but I don’t think it does at least not fully. See I’ve seen documentaries like this before that tells you how awful life without a father is and how children who grow up with one parent are doomed to a life less than their two parent counterparts. Films like this often find the weakest link in our community, focusing those with disciplinary issues, with drug dependencies, and those who have gone through physical and mental abuse to be the sole representatives a fatherless child. This is not who we all are and it is indescribably depressing to know that this is what people think of us.

    Ma’am I am an avid reader of both Beyond Black and White as well as No Wedding No Womb and I can generally understand your point of view, I sometimes even agree, but it hurts my heart to know that you believe that I have no soul because I do not have a father. My mother worked until her fingers bled raising me, and I love and respect her for all that she put herself through in order to give me the life that I had. It pains me to know that you, a woman that I have come to respect believes that it is no way that my mothers pain was enough to raise me and that my soul has been killed by a man that I have never known.

    Sincerely,
    An Honestly Hurt Black Girl

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    • Christelyn Karazin
      September 4, 2011

      Honestly Hurt, you have me mistaken. Every human being has a soul. I wouldn’t be working hundreds of hours of my own time if I thought that.

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