Archive for the ‘Official NWNW Event Posts’ Category

0 Gwen Cannon: The Value of Adoption and Foster Care

Gwen Cannon: The Value of Adoption and Foster Care

So in 1999, I was able to adopt. It was the best thing I could have done for the both of us.


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0 Paul Carrick Brunson: A Father’s Voice

Paul Carrick Brunson: A Father’s Voice

“It’s called “No Wedding, No Womb,” but in the effort to fix the broken homes of the African American community we are forgetting an important member – the father.”


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0 Lorraine Spencer: I Am My Mother’s Child Well…Kinda Sorta

Lorraine Spencer: I Am My Mother’s Child Well…Kinda Sorta

“Understanding that there are exceptions to every rule, many many children of single headed households do wonderfully in life and love. But they are exceptions. The overwhelming majority of children in these households will suffer at some point during childhood.”


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0 Jeneba Jalloh Ghatt: “No wedding No womb is not a judgment. It’s an option.”

Jeneba Jalloh Ghatt: “No wedding No womb is not a judgment. It’s an option.”

“No wedding No womb is not a judgment. It’s an option. There is a difference. More should know it and respect it and collectively, we all may go further, faster.”


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0 Shun Jackson: My Testimony as a Single Mom

Shun Jackson: My Testimony as a Single Mom

When you are a single parent, EVERYTHING that is done in a normal household (with 2 parents) is on the shoulders of the 1 parent.


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0 Like “The Interrupters,” No Wedding No Womb Might Save Lives. Is That Good Enough?

Like “The Interrupters,” No Wedding No Womb Might Save Lives. Is That Good Enough?

The No Wedding, No Womb (NWNW) movement is no different in this respect. “Those who support it are demanding to know: Are you with us or against us?
Well, I’m neither… “


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0 Kathy Henry: “Do You Have a Girlfriend?”

Kathy Henry: “Do You Have a Girlfriend?”

It is amazing to me that in almost all cultures, there is intense pressure on females to remain chaste and pure but men are encouraged to spread their seed with as many women as possible without any ramifications and this paradigm of thinking is dangerous.


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0 Why No Wedding, No Womb Is Common Sense

Why No Wedding, No Womb Is Common Sense

“As a happily married woman and expectant mother, I have personally experienced some of the benefits of being in a loving marriage before becoming pregnant. I’ll just discuss a few reasons why “No Wedding, No Womb” is a good darn idea.”


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0 Elizabeth Marquardt: Marriage Isn’t Just a ‘Piece of Paper’

Elizabeth Marquardt: Marriage Isn’t Just a ‘Piece of Paper’

As long as mom and dad are living together with their baby, why does it matter if they have this piece of paper that says they’re married? It turns out that marriage is more than just a piece of paper.


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0 Klarque Garrison: What’s a Community to Do? Babies Having Babies

Klarque Garrison: What’s a Community to Do? Babies Having Babies

“I recently, did a program on my talk radio show about “Why are our babies…having babies”? We barely had anyone call in for comments. I most certainly was perplexed by the notion that we’ve become so de-sensitize by this epidemic that no one thought it was an issue!”


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0 Homespun Wisdom: What a Mother Will Tell Her Baby Girl

Homespun Wisdom: What a Mother Will Tell Her Baby Girl

“My daughter is only 6 and she has already told me several times about what’s going to happen when she has a baby.”


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0 Things Must Change

Things Must Change

The struggles of the African American community have cost humanity.  The wellbeing of our youth has been sacrificed at a very dear price.  Unlike most people around the world, we do not have a tribe or clan we can attribute our heritage to and therefore this produces a restless displacement in the psyche of many [...]


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0 The MadLab: Out of Wedlock Births on Film that Play Out in Real Life

The MadLab: Out of Wedlock Births on Film that Play Out in Real Life

“Often than not, the picture of out of wedlock births, especially among African-American women tend to be similar to “Claudine” starring Diahann Carroll or “Lean on Me” starring Morgan Freeman.”


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0 Afua Boahene: Where Do We Go From Here?: “No Wedding, No Womb”, One Year Later

Afua Boahene: Where Do We Go From Here?: “No Wedding, No Womb”, One Year Later

The central thesis of my argument was and still is that the social costs of “out of wedlock” births is too high a price for us to pay.


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0 Isis The Blogger: The Unexpected outcome of Motherhood

Isis The Blogger: The Unexpected outcome of Motherhood

I had a full term pregnancy without any complications besides an unstable
relationship. When my son was born he was not responsive, although he looked like a normal, healthy baby; there was something going on in his brain that I would not fully understand until later.”


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0 LaShaun Williams: No Wedding, No Womb,The Real War on Child Poverty and Abuse

LaShaun Williams: No Wedding, No Womb,The Real War on Child Poverty and Abuse

“A new generation of nuclear households starts with black women and self-preservation, not just for personal sanctity but also for the mental health of their children. They don’t deserve the heartache that comes with being born into poverty.”


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0 Married Girl in a Weird World: Marriage is Excellent for Practical Reasons Too

Married Girl in a Weird World: Marriage is Excellent for Practical Reasons Too

“I know marriage isn’t for everyone, it just isn’t. I’m not trying to argue that point. I’m trying to say for all of those folks who feel that co-habitating is the same as marriage well; I’m here to tell you that’s not true, not even close to true. “


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0 Tracy Renee Jones: Strong Families Are About Having Options: Protect A Family’s Right to Have a Choice

Tracy Renee Jones: Strong Families Are About Having Options: Protect A Family’s Right to Have a Choice

“A stable partnership of any magnitude stands a better chance if each partner is willing and able to share responsibility and commitment to the children.”


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0 Martin Lindsey: “The Children Are Not Alright, But We Can Make It Right”

Martin Lindsey: “The Children Are Not Alright, But We Can Make It Right”

“As an “actionist” I try not to whine about a problem but actually do something about it.”


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0 Dee Dee Russell: Village Ghetto Land

Dee Dee Russell: Village Ghetto Land

NWNW is highlighting the reality of the obscene numbers of African “American out of wedlock births resulting in fatherless households. Too many fatherless kids fail, go to jail and have horrible lives. Stop talking about slavery stop blaming the white man go help raise your kids. Your excuse is not an excuse anymore!”


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0 Jennifer Vaughn: When the Price Is Too High

Jennifer Vaughn: When the Price Is Too High

“Unless and until key factors within the market fundamentally change, we can’t realistically expect the girls to change their behavior.”


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0 Nisa Muhammad: Raise Your Hands High!!!!

Nisa Muhammad: Raise Your Hands High!!!!

“The facts are clear. The children of marriage parents do much better on nearly every scale of health, education, wellbeing and more. Marriage is the best environment to raise children. Marriage is where men and women can be all they want to be with the help and support of a caring spouse.”


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0 Deborrah Cooper: When The Children of Single Parents End up Dead

Deborrah Cooper: When The Children of Single Parents End up Dead

“There is no need for you to have a baby when you are not married and have no one to help you love, care for and support that child’s growth and development.”


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0 Zabeth: Lessons For My Daughter About Power

Zabeth: Lessons For My Daughter About Power

“The lesson: Women have more power in relationships than they realize.”


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0 Halima Anderson: Shared Responsibility not depending only on the Energies of Black Women!

Halima Anderson: Shared Responsibility not depending only on the Energies of Black Women!

“I don’t think anyone can legitimately argue against people’s rights to make specific choices in life, but what if those choices, have an unfavourable impact not just on them but others and in this case their children? Are we simply to ignore all of that?”


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1 Janine Latus: You should be a model!

Janine Latus: You should be a model!

“We need rites of passage in this world that don’t include having babies. We need girls to stop feeling like women because they have babies and boys to stop feeling like men because they’ve spread their seed.”


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0 Rainebeauxese Redux: We ARE the problem.

Rainebeauxese Redux: We ARE the problem.

“TRY TO PRETEND Christelyn is not penning an IR book alongside getting this
movement going. Apples and zebus, people–macro, not micro.”


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5 Broken Brown Egg: Responsible Conception

Broken Brown Egg: Responsible Conception

“…to those who have no issue with the message of NWNW but claim their aggravation is on it not serving a real purpose or having any real “focus”, I dare you to work with Christelyn at developing one. I DARE you to do something.”


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0 Eric Payne: Fear, the Fatherhood Killer

Eric Payne: Fear, the Fatherhood Killer

I was hardly happy when I was told I was going to have a child. In fact, I nearly had a panic attack. My stomach tightened. My mouth dried out. My heart pounded out against my rib cage and I didn’t think there was enough air in the world to fill my lungs. For a second I began to hallucinate that I was asleep dreaming that I was awake.


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1 Angela Nichelle:  A Call to A.R.M.S.

Angela Nichelle: A Call to A.R.M.S.

The first step to working on this multi-layered problem is to admit a problem exists within the African American community because of the structural collapse of our families.


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0 Veronica Miller: “Hey Girls, Listen Up–You Have a Choice”

Veronica Miller: “Hey Girls, Listen Up–You Have a Choice”

HEY GIRLS, LISTEN UP — YOU HAVE A CHOICE Veronica Miller @veronicamarche http://veroniiblog.blogspot.com/ I was 15 years old. It was September, school had just started back up, and a classmate (We’ll call her Vanna), was asking me if my boyfriend and I were still together. “Yep,” I said. “Still together.” “Even through the whole summer?” [...]


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0 No Wedding, No Womb: I’m Searchin’ For a Real Love

No Wedding, No Womb: I’m Searchin’ For a Real Love

So now that I have been a mother (both a single mother and a married mother) for almost 18 years, what would I say to a young woman or man that may be looking for love in all the wrong places:


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0 Pioneer Valley Woman: “Getting Back to the Basics”

Pioneer Valley Woman: “Getting Back to the Basics”

“Getting back to the Basics” by PioneerValleyWoman Today is my birthday. I am a member of “generation X,” that age cohort of Americans born between the late 1960s and the 1970s. It seems that the older members of this group of African Americans alive today were the last ones to experience marital parenting as the [...]


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1 OOW Births: A Strategic Disadvantage from a Health Perspective? ~ by Adwoa Boahene of “The K Dossier” [Event Post]

OOW Births: A Strategic Disadvantage from a Health Perspective? ~ by Adwoa Boahene of “The K Dossier” [Event Post]

My thesis is simple: out of wedlock births pose a strategic disadvantage for communities of color which translates into serious health consequences for women and their children.


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0 Whose Body Is This: A Statement on “OOW Births” in the Black Community ~ by Afua Boahene (a.k.a. smelodydiva) of “Conversations With My Sisters” [Event Post]

Whose Body Is This: A Statement on “OOW Births” in the Black Community ~ by Afua Boahene (a.k.a. smelodydiva) of “Conversations With My Sisters” [Event Post]

Some girls say, “If I give it up, boys will want
me.” Many girls were “looking for love” in all the wrong places, saying things like“ I don’t feel good about myself, “I don’t like myself,” or “I don’t feel pretty and that’s why I do it.”


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0 Fellas, Put a Ring on It Before You Start Making Babies ~ by Amani Channel [Event Post]

Fellas, Put a Ring on It Before You Start Making Babies ~ by Amani Channel [Event Post]

So what are my thoughts? People…. we have to do better. I like to think beyond color lines, but the problem is undeniable. The streets are raising too many of our young kings, and without a strong family unit the numerous problems that plague black communities (high drop out rates, high incarceration rates, etc.) will persist.


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3 Leaving the Burning House ~by Shecodes [Event Post]

Leaving the Burning House ~by Shecodes [Event Post]

What if your partner who was lying in bed with you looked you straight in your face and said: “What flames? What smoke? The problem is not that bad. Go back to sleep.” … all the while you clearly smell your hair getting singed by the overwhelming heat of the tongues of flames that were disintegrating your headboard… What would you do?


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0 Black Women — Devil’s Advocate: Are Black Males Real Men? ~ by Betty Chambers (a.k.a. GoldenAh) [Event Post]

Black Women — Devil’s Advocate: Are Black Males Real Men? ~ by Betty Chambers (a.k.a. GoldenAh) [Event Post]

Which brings me to this point: why mess with a male who statistically is predisposed not to marry, provide protection, bring resources to the relationship, offer support, or bother to raise his own children? Jill Scott may wince at “brothas” who are marrying non-black women, but she willingly had a child for one with a I-Am-Irresponsible neon sign over his head.


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1 Open Letter to a Young Black Lady Thinking About Having Sex ~ by Carmen Dixon Rosenzweig of “All About Race” [Event Post]

Open Letter to a Young Black Lady Thinking About Having Sex ~ by Carmen Dixon Rosenzweig of “All About Race” [Event Post]

I still remember how delicious it feels the first time a boy you like, likes you back…and seems to like you best. You feel seen, you feel understood, you feel all womanly and urgent. And that’s why it’s so important that every boy and man you date, understands that what YOU NEED to make it in this world, is to not get pregnant young. www.allaboutrace.com


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0 “I Grew Up a Fatherless Child…” ~ by Cherilyn Smith of “Black Women Deserve Better” [Event Post]

“I Grew Up a Fatherless Child…” ~ by Cherilyn Smith of “Black Women Deserve Better” [Event Post]

Yes, I overcame numerous hurdles which have developed my resilient and resourceful character, but at what cost? When is the price too high? Some fatherless children can and do go on to do awesome things. (Note: SOME!) The tragic reality which plagues a majority can no longer be ignored. Disproportionate numbers of fatherless children are the walking wounded.


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0 He Blinded Me With Science: Are Serial Moms Chemically Hooked on Sex? ~ by Cherryl Aldave of “Heavy Mentalist” [Event Post]

He Blinded Me With Science: Are Serial Moms Chemically Hooked on Sex? ~ by Cherryl Aldave of “Heavy Mentalist” [Event Post]

Lisa doesn’t know as she basks in the after rays of their lovemaking is, that chemicals released by her own body have made her a ready target for repeating the pattern that’s already left her a single mother–twice.


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0 A Message from a First Time Father ~ by Citizen Ojo of “The Desultory Life & Times of a Public Citizen” [Event Post]

A Message from a First Time Father ~ by Citizen Ojo of “The Desultory Life & Times of a Public Citizen” [Event Post]

… “just because you come from a single parent home doesn’t mean you can’t be successful. But based on research, children have greater odds of success if they grow up in a two family household (i.e. mother and father in the home).”


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0 “When was the last time anyone has told you, that it is all for you” – Maya Angelo ~ by CM Whitener of “Your Boyfriend’s Best Girlfriend” [Event Post]

“When was the last time anyone has told you, that it is all for you” – Maya Angelo ~ by CM Whitener of “Your Boyfriend’s Best Girlfriend” [Event Post]

Who told you that you should be alone in this world without stability? Who told you that you are nothing more than a breeder? Who told you that you don’t deserve love and to have it everlasting? Who lied to you and said you are not worth it? Do not believe them. yourboyfriendsbestgirlfriend.blogspot.com


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0 Parents, Children Need to Dream a Bigger Dream ~ by Danielle Belton of “The Black Snob” [Event Post]

Parents, Children Need to Dream a Bigger Dream ~ by Danielle Belton of “The Black Snob” [Event Post]

My mother taught me about sex when I was nine-years-old. Nine. Years before my first period or puberty. Years before I was interested in having sex. Years before peers and television would try to feed me misinformation.


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1 Don’t Be Desperate and Dumb by Falling for the Baby Momma Okey Doke ~ by Deborrah Cooper of “Living the Single Life” [Event Post]

Don’t Be Desperate and Dumb by Falling for the Baby Momma Okey Doke ~ by Deborrah Cooper of “Living the Single Life” [Event Post]

Yeah, I know 75% of Black children are being raised in single parent homes. And lots of the young women having babies now are represented in that sad statistic. So you might think that since everyone else is doing it, it’s okay for you to do, too. One thing I learned from my parents is to never ever do anything just because other people are doing it. Why? Because most people are stupid, and if you follow blindly after them, you’ll end up being stupid too.


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0 We Must Stop Teaching Our Sons to Sow Their Wild Oats ~ by Fred Goodall of “Mocha Dad” [Event Post]

We Must Stop Teaching Our Sons to Sow Their Wild Oats ~ by Fred Goodall of “Mocha Dad” [Event Post]

Dads are quite focused on protecting their precious little princesses from unplanned pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and heartbreak caused by some silly boy. Almost every father with daughters that I know plans to purchase two items: a shotgun and a chastity belt. The shotgun is to intimidate his daughter’s suitors. If the gun doesn’t scare off the boys, then the chastity belt will be the next line of protection. But when it comes to their sons, many men refuse to hold them to the same standard of sexual purity.


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0 My Thoughts: A Cycle That Needs to Be Stopped ~ by Jamie Fleming of “for colored gurls” [Event Post]

My Thoughts: A Cycle That Needs to Be Stopped ~ by Jamie Fleming of “for colored gurls” [Event Post]

Like I said before, I think this is a huge issue. Before I go any further I want to mention a couple of things: I don’t knock any woman who makes the decision to be a single mother if she can afford to and is capable of caring for the child (a lot of women want children but don’t want to wait for marriage because of their age– I get that), but I don’t think that’s the case for most black women.


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2 Sista, Stop Settling for the Sperm ~ by Jenee Darden of “Cocoa Fly” [Event Post]

Sista, Stop Settling for the Sperm ~ by Jenee Darden of “Cocoa Fly” [Event Post]

We all know the sista who settles for the sperm. She’s working the register at JC Penny and making moves at JP Morgan. She’s our girlfriend in love with the guy who isn’t ready to settle down. But she gives her womb and heart to him anyway. She’s the neighbor who takes out her frustrations from her past mistakes on her child. “You no good just like your daddy!” www.cocoafly.com


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0 A New Statistic: You’re Not the Exception ~ by Jennifer Vaughn (a.k.a. Aoide-Melete-Mneme) of “à la mode de les Muses” [Event Post]

A New Statistic: You’re Not the Exception ~ by Jennifer Vaughn (a.k.a. Aoide-Melete-Mneme) of “à la mode de les Muses” [Event Post]

Girl, it’s time for a reality check. The “it” in “It can’t happen to me” happens all the time. Pretending it won’t is the worst defense. Here’s an alternative strategy: Hold your ground.


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1 The Days of The Oops ~ by Jimi Izrael [Event Post]

The Days of The Oops ~ by Jimi Izrael [Event Post]

When I read articles blaming black men for the rising tide of single mother births, I never see the schematics of the solar-powered, remote controlled leg-opener black men are given just after puberty that compels young black ladies to spread their legs.


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0 In China It Is Illegal to Have a Child Out Of Wedlock ~ Jo Gan of “Life Behind The Wall” [Event Post]

In China It Is Illegal to Have a Child Out Of Wedlock ~ Jo Gan of “Life Behind The Wall” [Event Post]

This traditional way of thinking use to be OUR way of thinking, not so long ago. I can still remember my grandmother telling me, “the best birth control was an aspirin, hold it between your knees.”


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0 Thought Provoking Perspectives ~ by John T. Wills [Event Post]

Thought Provoking Perspectives ~ by John T. Wills [Event Post]

After slavery ended and freed people were subjected to the immoral practice of segregation; the African American society was the envy of all other cultures because they married, stayed together and family was the unity that was their salvation. The parent’s main function was the survival of the children they reared. It was necessary for our culture to value this concept in order to survive the wickedness of the cruelty imposed upon our people by law. If not for this foundation and parental guidance it could have been a death sentence for their children. This commitment, often times, is missing in the parental responsibility within many quarters of our community to which our ancestors would be appalled.


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0 Juliana Norwood of OurWeekly Newspaper Endorses No Wedding No Womb! [Opinion, Event Post]

Juliana Norwood of OurWeekly Newspaper Endorses No Wedding No Womb! [Opinion, Event Post]

Juliana Norwood, staff writer for OurWeekly I personally feel that the level of baby-mama/daddy-ism is in the African American community is truly a tragedy. I completely agree that there are many different reasons why these situations occur, such as many socioeconomic factors, but I believe it is far beyond the time that we start putting more weight [...]


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0 Baby by You? No Thanks! ~ by Keshia Robertson (a.k.a. crush’ed) of “a crush a day ♥” [Event Post]

Baby by You? No Thanks! ~ by Keshia Robertson (a.k.a. crush’ed) of “a crush a day ♥” [Event Post]

At twelve I looked old enough to be a mother even without having kissed a boy. Throughout all of my teen years I looked old enough to be a mother because young black women every day are becoming mothers.

Over 70% of black women, girls younger than me, my age, older than me, the girl who use to do my hair was I was younger, my old best friend, elementary classmates—all of these women are mothers now or will be mothers at some point—single mothers.


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1 NWNW Isn’t About Bashing! ~ by Kimberly R. Woods [Event Post]

NWNW Isn’t About Bashing! ~ by Kimberly R. Woods [Event Post]

Before folks think the No Wedding No Womb movement is about bashing black single parent families, I want to present another informational gem…


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What If You Could Pick Your Parents? ~ by Kris Johnson [Event Post]

Try to imagine yourself as a child. If you could have planned your own origins, what family would you choose? It’s almost guaranteed that you’d pick a doting, father with an impeccable reputation. A protector, a man who takes care of his family, a good man. For a mother, you may pick…


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0 Do Better By Your Children! ~ by Lauren Bailey of “Lola Gets…” [Event Post]

Do Better By Your Children! ~ by Lauren Bailey of “Lola Gets…” [Event Post]

Just think about it, don’t you value your unborn children? Don’t you
think your future progeny deserve to have the best life possible? So,
if you have high standards for the lives of your future children, you
should have high standards for the father of these children as well!


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0 A Letter to Smart and Strong Women of All Colors, Hope, and Longing ~ by Dr. LeslieBeth Wish of “Love Victory” [Event Post]

A Letter to Smart and Strong Women of All Colors, Hope, and Longing ~ by Dr. LeslieBeth Wish of “Love Victory” [Event Post]

This advice is based on my research about strong women and love. My interest began when I was a child and was raised by a woman whose love saved me. Her name is Daisy, and she is an African-American-Cherokee woman who taught me to hold back my kisses until the right boy came along.


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5 Marriage Is the New Poop Word ~ by Lisa Mason [Event Post]

Marriage Is the New Poop Word ~ by Lisa Mason [Event Post]

Heaven forbid that you “offend” single mothers or suggest that it’s better for a child to have two good parents instead of one.


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0 Single Mom by Choice Says, “Baby Mammahood Must Cease!” ~ by LorMarie [Event Post]

Single Mom by Choice Says, “Baby Mammahood Must Cease!” ~ by LorMarie [Event Post]

First I need to declare that I’m an unapologetic SMC. For those of you unfamiliar with this acronym, it stands for single mother by choice.


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3 The OOW Problem Has Morphed Into Black-on-Black Crime ~ by Martin Lindsey [Event Post]

The OOW Problem Has Morphed Into Black-on-Black Crime ~ by Martin Lindsey [Event Post]

No more lynch mobs performing murder and mayhem on us for public entertainment. No, we’re way past the culture of the Roman Coliseum in America. In contemporary society we are breeding our own guaranteed generational curse.


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0 Why Marriage? ~ by Nisa I. Muhammad of “Marriage, Please”, Founder of Black Marriage Day [Event Post]

Why Marriage? ~ by Nisa I. Muhammad of “Marriage, Please”, Founder of Black Marriage Day [Event Post]

Isn’t it interesting that the Black woman is the only woman touting her strength with pride? Why doesn’t the Latino woman have to be strong? Where is the strong Asian woman? What about the strong Caucasian woman? Why does the Black woman have to be strong? Why can’t she just be a woman?


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0 NWNW! Not a Blame-Storm or a Shame-Storm, but We’ve Got Some Work Ahead ~ by Brooke Brimm, Editor of “Love’s Gumbo” [Event Post]

NWNW! Not a Blame-Storm or a Shame-Storm, but We’ve Got Some Work Ahead ~ by Brooke Brimm, Editor of “Love’s Gumbo” [Event Post]

This is very hard for us to talk about. It’s so hard that we have made a tough heart-wrenching situation into one to be celebrated. We wave a banner, we shout it from the mountain tops, we sing little ditties about it, and we high five each other on Father’s Day. Single-motherhood is a hard and heavy crown to wear.


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0 No Wedding, No Womb: No Decisions, No Success

No Wedding, No Womb: No Decisions, No Success

In my opinion, the decision making process when it comes to planning for a family is gone. Babies kind of just happen before we make conscious decisions that we want to spend the rest of our lives with someone else.


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1 The Strong Black Woman… ~ by Ana Hodges-Gazawi of “Quiskaeya” [Event Post]

The Strong Black Woman… ~ by Ana Hodges-Gazawi of “Quiskaeya” [Event Post]

“I AM their father! I AM their mother! I AM all they need! They don’t need that good for nothing bastard!” A strong black woman would shriek in my office at DCF in such a loud manner her voice could be heard bellowing through the halls. A strong black woman in corporate America was far more demure, but would display much the same mannerisms whilst explaining “What can he do for my children? He can’t even maintain a job. What kind of father could he possibly be to them?”


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3 Single Motherhood — An American Crisis ~ by Rev. Raymond C. Dix, Jr. [Event Post]

Single Motherhood — An American Crisis ~ by Rev. Raymond C. Dix, Jr. [Event Post]

Single mothers do not become so without the activity of males. Of course, many single mothers trusted the words of love from the father of their children. These men are too often unemployed or underemployed, not able nor willing to care for, nurture or lead a family. At the news of pregnancy, as if startled, these brothers run. They may not vacate physically, but they often detach themselves from all emotional and financial support of the women they impregnate.


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0 Free Lesson #23: Sex Causes Pregnancy! ~ by Roslyn Hardy Holcomb [Event Post]

Free Lesson #23: Sex Causes Pregnancy! ~ by Roslyn Hardy Holcomb [Event Post]

I know you’re asking how do you know if he’ll marry you if you get pregnant. Two things, you watch his behavior and you ask him. Men that already have children outside of marriage are to be avoided at all costs. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. If he didn’t marry that woman why on earth do you think he’ll marry you?


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0 Dear Grandpa: A Legacy of Commitment ~ by Salima Singletary of “On My Mind” [Event Post]

Dear Grandpa: A Legacy of Commitment ~ by Salima Singletary of “On My Mind” [Event Post]

I worry about the future of Black Americans. I worry that our professional, financial and political gains–generations of effort– will be undone by personal recklessness. www.foreverloyal.wordpress.com


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0 “Crack the Code” ~ by Shellie R. Warren of “ ‘On Fire’ Fast Movement ” [Event Post]

“Crack the Code” ~ by Shellie R. Warren of “ ‘On Fire’ Fast Movement ” [Event Post]

Shellie is an Author and Public Speaker. Her books are “Inside of Me: Lessons of Lust, Love and Redemption” and “Pure Heart: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Integrity”. Her websites are: http://xxxchurch.com/gethelp/women/ “On Fire” Fast Movement ________________________________________________ A couple of nights ago, I was talking to a male friend of mine. (Again single ladies, get some platonic [...]


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0 Sisters, Why Are You Throwing Away Your Value? ~ by Sophia Angeli Nelson of “I Am My Sister’s Keeper” [Event Post]

Sisters, Why Are You Throwing Away Your Value? ~ by Sophia Angeli Nelson of “I Am My Sister’s Keeper” [Event Post]

I think it is time we stopped making excuses and turning a blind eye to what has truly become a moral crisis in the black community. Iaskblog.com


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0 A Womb Is Not a Tomb ~ by @Soulful1 of “Post-Racial: Millenium 2100″ [Event Post]

A Womb Is Not a Tomb ~ by @Soulful1 of “Post-Racial: Millenium 2100″ [Event Post]

All I want is the coochie, I aint lookin to get married. Ladies, if you feel the same as I do, then let’s get it on and quit playin. However, if you desire to find a mate for life, giving it up every Saturday night isn’t going to win you many wife-material points. You gave up your sexuality for free, I suspect you do that for anyone with a car, drink, and a motel room.


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0 Is the Black Community Facing a “Baby Daddy” Epidemic? ~ by Stephanie M. Watts of “The Sauda Voice” [Event Post]

Is the Black Community Facing a “Baby Daddy” Epidemic? ~ by Stephanie M. Watts of “The Sauda Voice” [Event Post]

It’s not much of a guess because the evidence is all around us. Each day we step foot outside our doors we see it. On the street. In the supermarket. In the park. On the playground. In our very own families. Women. Black women. We are the overwhelming majority of those caring for and raising black children. Alone. I ask you, family. Why?


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0 That Doggone Blue Pill … ~ Tia Thomas of “The World of Miss Glamtastic” [Event Post]

That Doggone Blue Pill … ~ Tia Thomas of “The World of Miss Glamtastic” [Event Post]

Everywhere we turn, we are getting force-fed red pills, especially when it comes to the huge number of children born out-of-wedlock (OOW.)


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NWNW Promo ~ by Tim Alexander (a.k.a. ScreenTime on YouTube) [Video, Rated R for Language, Event Post]

“In my usual edgy fashion, I took it upon myself to delivery and heavy-handed message for those of you who like it hard. Just keeping it real, ya’ll! Warning: If you don’t like cussing, don’t click it!” –Tim Alexander, creator of the upcoming film “A Mother’s Love” and from the film maker who brought you “Diary of a Tired Black Man”


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1 Why Do Children Need Their Fathers? ~ by TJ Michaels [Event Post]

Why Do Children Need Their Fathers? ~ by TJ Michaels [Event Post]

Why do we put more planning into our next vacation than we do in planning our families? And why are we willing to accept less than what we want when it comes to ‘the ring’? The answer- because black women are fed the “you’re not worthy of a good guy” crap from a young age. It’s rare that black girls, in general, are made to feel special. www.tjmichaels.com


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0 A Father Reflects on How His Wife and Daughter “Make It All Work.” ~ by Torrey Spears [Event Post]

A Father Reflects on How His Wife and Daughter “Make It All Work.” ~ by Torrey Spears [Event Post]

“…all of the fantastic memories over the past three years came rushing to my head. From the dirty diapers and late night feedings, to dressing up in nylon crowns and toasting plastic spoons while playing “tea party with the King and Princess”. Memories that will stay with me through her scholastic years, her endeavor into the world, and when she blesses someone with her love and begins her own family.” www.torreyspears.com


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0 First-Hand Witness of Emotional Trauma ~ by Vanessa Jean Louis of “Afroconservative” [Event Post]

First-Hand Witness of Emotional Trauma ~ by Vanessa Jean Louis of “Afroconservative” [Event Post]

Many of us in the blogosphere (from different political persuasions) are writing in tandem about this issue as a result of the deafening silence from the media, academics, and so called “Black leaders” who refuse to acknowledge the pernicious psycho-social effects on children who are a product of unwed motherhood.


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0 The Backbone of Black America Is Now Speaking ~ by Vonmiwi Culvera of “Divalocity™” [Event Post]

The Backbone of Black America Is Now Speaking ~ by Vonmiwi Culvera of “Divalocity™” [Event Post]

How long will we wait for the government and our elected officials to have the courage to speak out on the self-annihilation of the family structure?


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0 Stop Living in the Day to Day and PLAN ~ by Vonnie of “Socialite Dreams” [Event Post]

Stop Living in the Day to Day and PLAN ~ by Vonnie of “Socialite Dreams” [Event Post]

Why is there no outrage at the lack of accountability for black men and their responsibility for their offspring? When will it all stop being glossed over or swept under the rug, or worse yet, completely blamed on the women?


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0 You Are Not Kim Porter or Tiny: #NWNW Critical Thinking and Love Required ~ by Gina McCaul of “What About Our Daughters” [Event Post]

You Are Not Kim Porter or Tiny: #NWNW Critical Thinking and Love Required ~ by Gina McCaul of “What About Our Daughters” [Event Post]

To the young girls who might be reading this today, whether you have a child or not, the only reason I am participating in No Wedding No Womb is because I want you to win. Period. I want you to win. I want your children to win and their children to win and their children to win.


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The New Baby Daddy – Revised and Revisited ~ by Zabeth of “IR Dating Coach” [Event Post]

At this time, we are beyond the point of critical mass- more than 70% of all black children are born out of wedlock- this is a fully fledged epidemic that we cannot continue to normalize and make excuses for. This “trend” has now gone beyond the ghetto and has now become normalized in the AA community- a rite of passage in many ways.


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1 Having Children Out Of Wedlock Has Become Synonymous with Black Women in the Media ~ by Kristina Daniele, Co-Founder of “Moms of Hue” [Event Post]

Having Children Out Of Wedlock Has Become Synonymous with Black Women in the Media ~ by Kristina Daniele, Co-Founder of “Moms of Hue” [Event Post]

It’s impossible to believe that it is when staring at a glaring statistic such as 70% of children born in the Black community are born out-of-wedlock. The status is glorified in movies, in videos, and by newspapers and other media outlets. We have to admit that having children out of wedlock has become so synonymous with Black women, that it is assumed we all wear the title of Baby Momma even when we don’t. Remember the FOX- First Lady Michelle Obama drama during the campaign?


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1 So. Darn. Tired. ~ by Lorriane Spencer, Songwriter of NWNW Theme Song [Event Post]

So. Darn. Tired. ~ by Lorriane Spencer, Songwriter of NWNW Theme Song [Event Post]

I realize that “No Wedding No Womb” has caught on and the overwhelming majority feels this is a positive dialogue. But as I read about one child after another killed at the hands of their mother’s boyfriends, husbands or shack up honeys, I see that some women who don’t care to declare NWNW many times endanger their children. Yes failure to see the importance of NWNW can have devastating ramifications for any children that the baby mama already has.


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0 A Comedian’s Take on NWNW ~ by Jacquetta Szathmari [Event Post]

A Comedian’s Take on NWNW ~ by Jacquetta Szathmari [Event Post]

Everyone is making such a big deal about this whole single-parent/out-of-wedlock “epidemic” in the black community. Apparently, 72% of all African-American children are born out of wedlock. First of all big deal and second of all get with the times—who uses phrases like “out of wedlock”.


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Our Daughters Deserve Better ~ by Jeneba Jalloh Ghatt of “JenebaSpeaks.com” [Event Post]

This past weekend, my husband and I were chauffeuring my children and niece about to weekend activities and the kids were in the back seats chatting. At some point, my 6-year old niece announced that she was going to be a mommy when she grew up. Just then, my 8-year old spoke up and said, “no, you’re going to get married first and then you and your husband are going to have a baby.”


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0 My Teen-Aged Daughter Won’t Be Having a Baby ~ by Karyn L. Folan of “Diary of a Black and White Family” [Event Post]

My Teen-Aged Daughter Won’t Be Having a Baby ~ by Karyn L. Folan of “Diary of a Black and White Family” [Event Post]

For some reason, there is an attitude in the black community that makes it perfectly acceptable to have a baby without a husband, or without the support of even a committed partner.


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0 Is It Worth It? Black Women & Out-Of-Wedlock Births ~ by Reinvention O’Womahood of “Secret Woman’s League” [Event Post]

Is It Worth It? Black Women & Out-Of-Wedlock Births ~ by Reinvention O’Womahood of “Secret Woman’s League” [Event Post]

The most common move to solve social lifestyle epidemics is simply to make it so common that it could almost be called “okay”. When a problem becomes the norm then the less people are offended by it, and dismiss everything that may come under the situation as not a very big deal. It’s a slow but very effective mode to get things “accepted” into society. Look at many controversial subjects flaunted in the media. They make so many of them appear to be so commonplace that the average person will become less sensitized too it, and may even begin to favor it. Viewpoints toward it change, lessen in rigidity till it is almost completely approved by society.


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