Archive for the ‘Relevant to NWNW’ Category

0 Time to Have a Conversation about the Connection between Sex, Children and Responsibility

Time to Have a Conversation about the Connection between Sex, Children and Responsibility

“Marriage–of the legally and spiritually binding type–is the safest way to raise children here in America. I think it’s about time for Americans to ask themselves what do we need to do to make our marriages more like the kinds of marriages that Europeans are experiencing–even if the ‘marriage’ that Europeans are partaking of is not one that involves standing before a judge and pledging ’till death do us part’. Clearly, Europeans–and German’s in particular–know something we don’t know or have yet to acknowledge.”


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0 Lamar Tyler: “The Wire” Star Tray Chaney Promotes Fatherhood in New Music Video

Lamar Tyler: “The Wire” Star Tray Chaney Promotes Fatherhood in New Music Video

In a time when Fatherhood is a hot button issue in the African American community actor/rapper Tray Chaney releases a music video for his new song titled Fatherhood that hits the mark. Many will recognize Chaney from his role as Poot Carr on HBO’s hit show “The Wire.”


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0 What Da Cuss?! Grandmothers In Their Thirties Get There Own Reality Show

What Da Cuss?! Grandmothers In Their Thirties Get There Own Reality Show

Lawdhammersee with a cherry on top, but news has it that a major cable network just sent a cattle call for all 30-something grandmothers.


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0 Predators and Pimps: Saving Our Girls from Oakland’s Streets

Predators and Pimps: Saving Our Girls from Oakland’s Streets

“When you been molested your whole life, sometimes these girls be hoes. They do it to cover up the pain of what happened to them. “ –Former prostituted teen


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0 Things Must Change

Things Must Change

The struggles of the African American community have cost humanity.  The wellbeing of our youth has been sacrificed at a very dear price.  Unlike most people around the world, we do not have a tribe or clan we can attribute our heritage to and therefore this produces a restless displacement in the psyche of many [...]


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0 “The High Cost of Single Parenting: Anyone Surprised?”

“The High Cost of Single Parenting: Anyone Surprised?”

I wrote this post in my column on Madame Noire in response to recent Census data the once again, shows the high rates of poverty amongst single parents. “The High Cost of Single Parenting: Anyone Surprised?” I’m not. Yet ANOTHER article that tells more of the truth. Parenting a child without a contributing partner is [...]


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2 Lawd, There’s Hope! Puffy’s Son “Gets It!”

Lawd, There’s Hope! Puffy’s Son “Gets It!”

His message went out to over 200,000 followers and was re-tweeted over 100 times.


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0 True Stories: Kathy Henry Talks Frankly About No Father, Molestation, and Feelings of Inadequacy

True Stories: Kathy Henry Talks Frankly About No Father, Molestation, and Feelings of Inadequacy

“When I think about the molestation and my father abandoning me, I am filled with so much anger and hurt, it scared me and for years, I blocked it out. How can a man leave his child to fend for herself in such a harsh, cruel world? “


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0 Urban Midwifery Gives Pregnant South Carolina Girls an “A-ha” Moment

Urban Midwifery Gives Pregnant South Carolina Girls an “A-ha” Moment

Rural Baby Mamas have the same obstacles and pain as Urban Baby Mamas… The issues are the same, and a woman, is a woman, is a woman… regardless of her geographical location here in the US. The issues were mostly about financial struggles, having to “do it all”, and not having the much needed emotional support.


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0 Carolyn Edgar: Marriage At All Costs is Too High a Price to Pay

Carolyn Edgar: Marriage At All Costs is Too High a Price to Pay

I was nine months pregnant with my son on my wedding day, one week from delivering our second child. I’d insisted on getting married because I couldn’t stomach the thought of having another child out of wedlock. But I knew the whole time that he was the wrong man to marry. I’d known that during the five years we lived together before the marriage.


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6 Janks Morton: “Are We There Yet?”

Janks Morton: “Are We There Yet?”

My scream-out-loud moment came when I saw that a staggering 59% of African American women with multiple children had multiple fathers (National Longitudinal Survey of Youth: University of Michigan Institute for Social Research. Date of publication unavailable). My immediate thoughts were, can we go any lower? have we hit rock bottom? are we there yet?


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0 Relationships Matter Now: “We are tired of people minimizing the importance of family in our community.”

Relationships Matter Now: “We are tired of people minimizing the importance of family in our community.”

Why can’t we applaud strong black families when we have the opportunity? Why can’t we praise them for raising upstanding citizens and passing on that legacy to their kids?


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5 Who Gets to Speak the Truth?

Who Gets to Speak the Truth?

Whether is Mike Huckabee, Bill Cosby, or Barack Obama, it seems that NOBODY is “qualified” to speak the truth.


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0 Madame Noire: Are We Setting Our Daughters Up to Be Single Mothers?

Madame Noire: Are We Setting Our Daughters Up to Be Single Mothers?

Career-driven women with no balance are validated by their education and designer handbags. Cold, guarded, callous, they don’t need a man because they have diplomas.


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0 Single Mothers ‘Bad For Society’, Pew Research Center’s Latest Poll Finds

Single Mothers ‘Bad For Society’, Pew Research Center’s Latest Poll Finds

A new survey from the Pew Research Center shows that an overwhelming number of people still believe that one of the most widespread “alternative” family arrangements out there–single motherhood–is bad for society.


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0 Kalediscope: Breaking the myths of single parenthood.

Kalediscope: Breaking the myths of single parenthood.

I love it when people own their stuff and take responsibility.  At some point, we all have to.


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3 Video: “Did I Wake You” What Motivates Me to Fight for No Wedding No Womb.

Video: “Did I Wake You” What Motivates Me to Fight for No Wedding No Womb.

Take a look at who is in the movie, then get some insight into why I’m so passionate about this cause.


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1 USA Today: “Our view on kids–When unwed births  hit 41%, it’s just not  right.”

USA Today: “Our view on kids–When unwed births hit 41%, it’s just not right.”

When someone alerted me to the article, I thought, well FINALLY! But take a special look at the stats on black children–looks like we ticked up to 73%!


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2 Mad Chucky Cheese ‘Baby Mamma’ Brawl Makes You Tube Debut

Mad Chucky Cheese ‘Baby Mamma’ Brawl Makes You Tube Debut

What a mess.  I only preview this event here, because this video will most likely go viral.  It will because this is the STEREOTYPICAL impression of how young, black, uncouth and unmarried men and women often act when two mothers of one father get together.


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0 What Men & Women Can Learn from Emperor Penguins

What Men & Women Can Learn from Emperor Penguins

These semi-aquatic birds seem to have parenting skills superior to some human beings.


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0 Decline in Marriage = Decline of the Middle Class

Decline in Marriage = Decline of the Middle Class

Higher-educated people are adopting a more traditional family model, while less-educated people are more and more cavalier about a cohesive family unit, which threatens the cornerstone of the U.S. economy: The Middle Class


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0 Unwed Fathers Make Less Money, Study Says

Unwed Fathers Make Less Money, Study Says

A study conducted by Princeton University and the Brookings Institute revealed that fathers not cohabitating with the mothers of their children earned 20 percent less than married or cohabitating men, with the gap widening over time.


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2 Video: 90 Students at Memphis High School Pregnant or Already Mothers

Video: 90 Students at Memphis High School Pregnant or Already Mothers

11% of the high school population is gestating or lactating. Shame, shame on us.


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0 NWNW Featured on “Relationship Playbook!”

NWNW Featured on “Relationship Playbook!”

Host Will Wavvy and I had a great conversation. Take a listen! Listen to internet radio with Will Wavvy on Blog Talk Radio Share on Facebook


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0 New CDC Report Links Children’s Health with Family Structure

New CDC Report Links Children’s Health with Family Structure

CDC comes out with health statistics on children in two-parent families vs. single-parent homes


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0 Poynter: How social media can facilitate difficult conversations about race

Poynter: How social media can facilitate difficult conversations about race

“…the “No Wedding No Womb” debate gave Washington’s story fresh perspectives from the black community. It gave voice (or voices) to those who are most investment in that statistic. “


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15 Why No Wedding No Womb DOES Work.

Why No Wedding No Womb DOES Work.

For me, No Wedding No Womb is as simple as 1+1=2. Why do people have to make it so complicated?


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0 Are Times Changing or Are We Just “Jacked Up”? (Via Fresh Express)

Are Times Changing or Are We Just “Jacked Up”? (Via Fresh Express)

When did getting our women pregnant and not sticking around to raise the family become the “norm”?


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0 Get hooked on this like The Soaps: “Diary of a Single Mom”

Get hooked on this like The Soaps: “Diary of a Single Mom”

Now in it’s third season, Diary of a Single Mom is sad, funny, compelling and true-to-life.


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2 Must-Watch Series: “A Week with my Father”

Must-Watch Series: “A Week with my Father”

Giacomo Knox launches a web-TV series all about sons estranged from their fathers.


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0 Author Spotlight: April Gabrielle

Author Spotlight: April Gabrielle

With a son, 22, and a daughter, 14, this single mother knows a thing or two about the struggle of a single mother.


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1 Herb Way: A Picture is Worth 1,000,000 Words.

Herb Way: A Picture is Worth 1,000,000 Words.

Photographer Herb Way is a man to watch. He was kind enough share this beautiful family photo because he’s a BIG supporter of NWNW. His beautiful photography book, “Protraits of Eve” is absolutely amazing.


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3 Investor Joshua Kennon: “Look at the data”

Investor Joshua Kennon: “Look at the data”

Look at the data. Out-of-wedlock pregnancies are a broad spectrum problem across most demographic groups. It has real ramifications for family income levels, educational attainment and more. As an investor, one of my goals is for the average family to be as successful and financially independent as possible. The pregnancy crisis threatens that goal.


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16 Since when is it “lame” to save yourself till marriage?

Since when is it “lame” to save yourself till marriage?

13-year-old gets heckled for wanting to wait for sex till marriage. Anyone see a problem here?


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3 Chicago Sun-Times Critic of NWNW Takes Heat from Readers

Chicago Sun-Times Critic of NWNW Takes Heat from Readers

Chicago Sun-Times columnist, Mary Mitchell’s piece, “Kicking Single Moms While Thier Down,” was a critical piece in response to NWNW got blowback from readers sick and tired of the same old excuses.


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0 Down In The District: “Baby Mama Drama”

Down In The District: “Baby Mama Drama”

Down in the District
Washington, DC, United States
The Black Public Health Student Network (BPHSN) of The George Washington University (GW) was established to develop Black leaders in the Washington, DC public health community. We exist to support and guide Black public health students in academic, professional, service and social endeavors, to encourage cooperation and closer ties between Black students of GW’s School of Public Health and Health Services (SPHHS), to establish a vehicle through which our concerns are brought to bear on GW policies, and to advocate for sound public health for the community at large.


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3 Austin Weekly News: “No Wedding No Womb Does Have It’s Place”

Austin Weekly News: “No Wedding No Womb Does Have It’s Place”

There is something very wrong when a man is good enough to father your children but not good enough to marry and build a life together.


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2 Essence.com: Dealing with the 72 Percent Unwed Mothers Rate

Essence.com: Dealing with the 72 Percent Unwed Mothers Rate

Amy Wax: “The 21st century for the Black community is about building human capital. That is the undone business. That is the unmet need. That is the completion of the civil rights mission.”


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0 Field Negro: “Daddy’s Home”…(Not)

Field Negro: “Daddy’s Home”…(Not)

But I submit to you my brothers that we could start bringing these numbers down tomorrow if we would just remember to strap on “jimmy” before we jam.


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0 BlackVoices.com: 72 Percent of African-American Children Born to Unwed Mothers

BlackVoices.com: 72 Percent of African-American Children Born to Unwed Mothers

We must get it together, black people. Maybe marriage is not necessarily the answer, but a committed relationship would definitely go a long way to ensuring the well-being of our children.


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0 A Lawyer Gives FREE Advice: Married/Divorced Women Have Fare Far Better in the Family Court System

A Lawyer Gives FREE Advice: Married/Divorced Women Have Fare Far Better in the Family Court System

In the past, I’ve defended men in oow paternity cases, and have done opposing depositions of unmarried women who had oow babies. I found those proceedings to be extremely unpleasant for everybody involved.


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2 101 Ideas To Strengthen Marriage: Featuring Hampton University Professor, Linda Malone-Colon

101 Ideas To Strengthen Marriage: Featuring Hampton University Professor, Linda Malone-Colon

These 101 ideas are offered by David Blankenhorn and Linda Malone-Colón, and do not necessarily represent the views of the scholarly contributors to this Marriage Index or No Wedding No Womb.


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1 Is Marriage Still for Everyone? (Open Forum)

Is Marriage Still for Everyone? (Open Forum)

Is Marriage Still for Everyone? by David Lapp, Family Scholars.org Over at First Things, I have an essay in which I argue that, a changing economy notwithstanding, marriage remains a vital institution for people from all classes–including the less-educated. I also suggest that it’s precisely traditional norms like lifelong marriage and bearing children within marriage that [...]


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3 Still Need Proof? A Brookings/Princeton Collaboration Says Children Are At Risk

Still Need Proof? A Brookings/Princeton Collaboration Says Children Are At Risk

Compared with more traditional families, these fragile families face greater risks in terms both of family stability and of economic security—risks that can imperil child well-being.


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0 Transcript from Essence.com Online Chat!

Transcript from Essence.com Online Chat!

Special thanks to Sophia Nelson, Dr. Janet, and Deborah Roberts, Crunk Feminists, Essence editors and all the participants for such a great and productive conversation!


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0 New York Times: Culture of Poverty Re-Examined…Finally.

New York Times: Culture of Poverty Re-Examined…Finally.

Now, after decades of silence, these scholars are speaking openly about you-know-what, conceding that culture and persistent poverty are enmeshed.


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3 JenebaSpeaks: Why Won’t Main Stream Media Cover Black News?

JenebaSpeaks: Why Won’t Main Stream Media Cover Black News?

This is a portion of an article written by NWNW participant, Jeneba Jalloh Ghatt, founder of The Ghatt Law Group LLC, the nations’ first communications law firm owned by women and minorities.


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3 BBC Reports on Black Dating/Marriage Problem

BBC Reports on Black Dating/Marriage Problem

And now the whole world knows… http://www.bbc.co.uk/i/p009yfwg/ From the BBC It’s hard finding your man in America if you’re black and single. Recent US studies have shown that the number of college educated black women getting married has decreased by a third since the 1970s. Although part of a wider trend, African American women are [...]


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0 My Interview with Off Page Radio

My Interview with Off Page Radio

Off Page Radio is a strong critic of No Wedding No Womb!  But I felt it was necessary for me to clarify my position.  Take a listen, and judge for yourself. Listen to internet radio with OffPageRadio on Blog Talk Radio Share on Facebook


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0 Naked With Socks On: Being a ‘Baby Mamma’ is No Badge of Honor

Naked With Socks On: Being a ‘Baby Mamma’ is No Badge of Honor

No matter how pretty we paint the picture that is our life to others, whether we have a supporting father for our child or have one that’s an asshole, we [unmarried mothers] are “baby mamas.”


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0 Black Conscious Thought: “The Idea That It Takes a Village to Raise a Child is B.S.”

Black Conscious Thought: “The Idea That It Takes a Village to Raise a Child is B.S.”

In my opinion…this is just another way for black folks to OUTSOURCE their responsibility as parents, educators, protectors, and providers of THEIR children.


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0 Real Clear Politics: “It’s the Marriage Rate, Stupid”

Real Clear Politics: “It’s the Marriage Rate, Stupid”

Real Clear Politics October 1, 2010 It’s the Marriage Rate, Stupid By Mona Charen Income inequality, we learn from the Census Bureau, has reached the highest level since data were first collected on the subject in 1967. Poverty has increased dramatically, with one of seven Americans now falling below the poverty threshold. Additionally, the Census [...]


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0 Time’s Up: Legitimate Dissent Versus Sabotage ~ by Khadija Nassif of “The Sojourner’s Passport” [Relevant, 2nd Essay, Open Forum]

Time’s Up: Legitimate Dissent Versus Sabotage ~ by Khadija Nassif of “The Sojourner’s Passport” [Relevant, 2nd Essay, Open Forum]

The topic of online activism, and the difference between dissenters and saboteurs came up during a recent conversation. I believe that far too many African-American bloggers are dangerously naive about the difference between these two categories. I believe this is because most of them have never had the opportunity to participate in an actual, sustained movement (as opposed to agitating about a single individual or incident).


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0 Counterpoint to Slate Article: All forms of birth control are less expensive than an actually having a kid.”

Counterpoint to Slate Article: All forms of birth control are less expensive than an actually having a kid.”

So what gives? If black men and women have access to all this ‘female-controlled’ and male-controlled contraception, then why aren’t they using them effectively at the same rates as whites or Hispanics?


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0 The Necessary Conversation: Birth Control

The Necessary Conversation: Birth Control

But more doesn’t mean always. I suggest that the most underdiscussed factor in all this is that the demand for female-controlled contraception like the pill—which is easier to be consistent with than condoms—isn’t being met.


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29 Shock, Sadness, Then Joy. Part I

Shock, Sadness, Then Joy. Part I

This past week has been a rollercoaster for me.  While launching what could be the biggest and most important social activism I might ever be a part of in my lifetime, I have sat as both particpant and observer in all the fray and ruckus around this movement.  I have witnessed people come together who [...]


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0 Courage Network Joins In Support for NWNW Against Domestic Violence

Courage Network Joins In Support for NWNW Against Domestic Violence

Lyn Twyman Courage Network There is a difference between being a single parent by choice and being a single parent by “accident”. Those who have chosen to be single parents engage a support system of family, friends and access resources in their community to provide an environment that is nurturing to their children. The African-American [...]


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5 Ten Reasons I needed my Daddy!

Ten Reasons I needed my Daddy!

1.  To show me unconditional love. My father was a strict and stern man, but he always let me know that I would always be loved by him no matter what I did.  I was always secure in this, and never questioned if I would be accepted in my home. 2.  To be a friend.  [...]


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0 Jara: “Dear Deadbeat Dads, I Believe You Can Change”

Jara: “Dear Deadbeat Dads, I Believe You Can Change”

Almost daily, I hear someone express the opinion that people don’t and can’t change. Well, I disagree. It’s never too late to stop being a deadbeat dad.


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3 BlackAmericaWeb Says Ending Black Fatherlessness Should Be a Priority [Support, Open Forum]

BlackAmericaWeb Says Ending Black Fatherlessness Should Be a Priority [Support, Open Forum]

Bishop Eddie Long, a mentor for young boys, had a “ritual” for them declaring them his “spiritual sons” in which his “children” got necessites and goodies at the horrifying price of submitting to him sexually.


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0 Fear’s Grip ~ by Ben LaRiviere (a.k.a. loser078) of YouTube [Relevant, Video]

Fear’s Grip ~ by Ben LaRiviere (a.k.a. loser078) of YouTube [Relevant, Video]

No commentary from me, except that I LOVE Rachmaninoff’s The Rhapsody, I walked down the aisle to it.  Special thanks to NWNW participant, Jennifer Vaughn for finding this.  Makes for an interesting discussion, don’t you? Conjures all sorts of criticisms about women’s sexuality, even has a mildly violent scene. I wouldn’t recommend watching this around [...]


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