BlackAmericaWeb Says Ending Black Fatherlessness Should Be a Priority [Support, Open Forum]

BlackAmericaWeb Says Ending Black Fatherlessness Should Be a Priority [Support, Open Forum]

Bishop Eddie Long, a mentor for young boys, had a “ritual” for them declaring them his “spiritual sons” in which his “children” got necessites and goodies at the horrifying price of submitting to him sexually.

Author : Christelyn Karazin

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Christelyn is married with four children.

Nearly a decade ago, Charles Barkley made it known that all he wanted to do for his fans was play ball for them – and not play daddy to their children.

Said Sir Charles:

“I’m not a role model … just because I dunk a basketball doesn’t mean I should raise your kids.”

To some, Barkley’s remark was heavier on arrogance than on wisdom. But to me, it reflected a simple truth that black parents should take to heart. That truth being that no matter what, they should ensure that they are the people who their children look up to; that nothing should force them to abdicate their influence over their children.

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The writer makes some extremely valid points, and I’ll provide them as a bulleted list:

  • Bishop Eddie Long, a mentor for young boys, had a “ritual” for them declaring them his “spiritual sons” in which his “children” got necessites and goodies at the horrifying price of submitting to him sexually.
  • This quote stands alone, nothing to add from me:

“And this scandal should be a reminder that, for all the talk about finding role models and mentors for black boys, the emphasis ought to be turned back to combating black fatherlessness – and equipping black men with whatever tools they need to rear their own children.”

  • The reporter states an obvious problem, which has too long been dismissed:

“Black Children more at risk of growing up poor, dropping out of school and committing crimes.”

There’s a lot more, and I encourage you to visit the site and provide commentary as well.  We all have to work together to address and begin to work toward solutions.

Discuss!

  • The reporter states an obvious problem, which has too long been dismissed:

Black Children more at risk of growing up poor, dropping out of school and committing crimes.

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  1. Gary A. Tyus
    September 29, 2010

    My mother selected the nature, stlye, and type of father I would have when she made up her mind to keep her legs closed and her mind open to one simple ideal, in order to see the best part of her she did not, would not, and refuse to take her pants off or lift her dress up because after she finished High-school, and college, worked on her dreams, bulid her a life, then added a husband to that life, this fact would still be true, it is never in a ladys best interest to do what porn stars do for money in the name of Love.

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    • Name
      September 29, 2010

      RE “refuse to take her pants off or lift her dress up”
      What about your father? Did he keep his pants zipped up and his boots on?

      NWNW = no man is going to sew HIS seed/wild oats in me (use my womb) as a survival tactic to make sure ‘he and his’ continues (for at least) another generation.

      And this is what many ‘men’ are doing. They are using women/girls as a survival tactic. And then they are on to the next. Because they know that they don’t have the means to provide a child or family mentally, emotionally, socially and to selfish and unequipped financially, so they figure they may as well make their odds better of (having offspring that survive) by having as many baby mamas as they can fool.

      Ladies focus on this -CONCIPTION CONTROL- at all cost!

      Don’t let some man take advantage of you. If you have loving caring feelings at all, know that you will hurt! You will HURT terribly when he impregnates you and leaves. Your Child will HURT, and you will continue to HURT watching your child/ren hurt.

      If you are going to have sex know that you CAN get pregnant!!! SEX=pregnant. Get away from that demographic of men who are so desperate that they will try to impregnate you-everyone knows how babies are made. If he doesn’t take any precautions-HE IS TRYING to get you pregnant. There are other men who go above and beyond at making sure they will not impregnate a woman. Usually these are the ones who have the means and desire to take care of kids that they may have.

      For your BEST LIFE and any kids that come from your womb, because that’s what you can control, get married to the ‘right kind of man’ you’ll have to do research on that, and then plan with hubby your kids! It’ll be fun.

      IF you don’t focus on conception control any man who gets you pregnant will leave you and say, it’s your fault because you didn’t close your legs.

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  2. Michael O'Byran
    September 29, 2010

    I find it amusing that people are always trying to point the finger at why things are the way they are amongst black youth. People blame music, celebrities and the influence of the community. It seems the more educated an individual gets, the more dumb PEOPLE get. Remember when communities raised children? When you could get popped for misbehaving in public by a complete stranger (that really ended up knowing one of your family members and KNEW you know better???), how about when “daddy” came home and ALL THE GAMES STOPPED. I agree that the only role model in ANY CHILD’S LIFE (black or white) should be a very close family member. We have to stop placing the blame on others that don’t even know who our children are.
    To stick to the subject, the idea of encouraging black men to marry sounds good. But the idea of women holding out isn’t going to help that much. The truth of the matter is, “what she won’t do for me, someone else will.” So how did it work before??? We left people alone to figure things out for themselves AND education wasn’t THEE driving force behind all we did. Go back a few decades and take a poll to see how old people were when they married. 17 is the average (amongst women) and the men were older. Nowadays, we tend to think that education comes first (As the write above states about their mother), and then the family life. Along with that higher education comes an independence that CANNOT be denied. This level of self-accomplishment and achievement has this person thinking “I don’t need anyone anymore because I did this all myself.” And that, in itself, is the truth. Imagine: Going through high school, and 4+ years of college, starting a “successful career,” and then DECIDING to get married. How easily can you walk away from that marriage? As soon as you want! 1st real arguememnt or disagreement, and then here comes the papers. What about the children? We are right back where we started. The solution is NOT women keeping their legs closed. Its much more complicated (but simple to me) than that. 1. Increase the cost to a divorce to $55,000.00 2. When a women is pregnant, she should be married to that child’s father BEFORE the baby is born. 3. When that child is born, instill into them the values of FAMILY and LOVE. 4. Watch things come back to how they were.
    I would go on about this subject, but this is something that people need to realize its not about SEX. Its morals, its a state-of-mind, but most of all, its a decision. We need to learn to INFLUENCE that decision.
    I was raised by my mother. No father. I am 27 years old, black, have no children, BUT… I live with my girlfriend of almost a year. She has a son who just turned a year (I have been around since he was a month old), and my value of FAMILY is stronger than most. IF I wanted to leave, I would re-consider for the sake of the baby EVEN THOUGH he isn’t mine.

    Check out http://www.sotg.us and you will get a lot more of my views.

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