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Time to Have a Conversation about the Connection between Sex, Children and Responsibility
“Marriage–of the legally and spiritually binding type–is the safest way to raise children here in America. I think it’s about time for Americans to ask themselves what do we need to do to make our marriages more like the kinds of marriages that Europeans are experiencing–even if the ‘marriage’ that Europeans are partaking of is not one that involves standing before a judge and pledging ’till death do us part’. Clearly, Europeans–and German’s in particular–know something we don’t know or have yet to acknowledge.”
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Paul Carrick Brunson: A Father’s Voice
“It’s called “No Wedding, No Womb,†but in the effort to fix the broken homes of the African American community we are forgetting an important member – the father.”
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Jeneba Jalloh Ghatt: “No wedding No womb is not a judgment. It’s an option.”
“No wedding No womb is not a judgment. It’s an option. There is a difference. More should know it and respect it and collectively, we all may go further, faster.”
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Shun Jackson: My Testimony as a Single Mom
When you are a single parent, EVERYTHING that is done in a normal household (with 2 parents) is on the shoulders of the 1 parent.
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Like “The Interrupters,†No Wedding No Womb Might Save Lives. Is That Good Enough?
The No Wedding, No Womb (NWNW) movement is no different in this respect. “Those who support it are demanding to know: Are you with us or against us?
Well, I’m neither… “
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Kathy Henry: “Do You Have a Girlfriend?”
It is amazing to me that in almost all cultures, there is intense pressure on females to remain chaste and pure but men are encouraged to spread their seed with as many women as possible without any ramifications and this paradigm of thinking is dangerous.
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Why No Wedding, No Womb Is Common Sense
“As a happily married woman and expectant mother, I have personally experienced some of the benefits of being in a loving marriage before becoming pregnant. I’ll just discuss a few reasons why “No Wedding, No Womb” is a good darn idea.”
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No Wedding No Womb: An Open Letter to My One-Year Old Son and All Black Baby Boys Who Will Inevitably Grow Up
“The hip hop artists who religiously rap about black women as bitches and hoes deserving nothing but sexual domination were once toddlers and their first words for black women were mama and nana.”
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Bekki Davis Keller: A Note to the NWNW “Haters”
To those who highly object to NWNW and call it a stupid idea, I have to wonder if you have been following what NWNW has been doing long enough to call the founder’s idea “stupid”?
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Elizabeth Marquardt: Marriage Isn’t Just a ‘Piece of Paper’
As long as mom and dad are living together with their baby, why does it matter if they have this piece of paper that says they’re married? It turns out that marriage is more than just a piece of paper.
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Klarque Garrison: What’s a Community to Do? Babies Having Babies
“I recently, did a program on my talk radio show about “Why are our babies…having babiesâ€? We barely had anyone call in for comments. I most certainly was perplexed by the notion that we’ve become so de-sensitize by this epidemic that no one thought it was an issue!”
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England Simpson: Twelve: An Important Conversation
“Minors are becoming parents and bringing children into unstable homes and some are getting fame and notoriety for it. Ew, that’s wack… “
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Homespun Wisdom: What a Mother Will Tell Her Baby Girl
“My daughter is only 6 and she has already told me several times about what’s going to happen when she has a baby.”
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The MadLab: Out of Wedlock Births on Film that Play Out in Real Life
“Often than not, the picture of out of wedlock births, especially among African-American women tend to be similar to “Claudine†starring Diahann Carroll or “Lean on Me†starring Morgan Freeman.”
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Afua Boahene: Where Do We Go From Here?: “No Wedding, No Wombâ€, One Year Later
The central thesis of my argument was and still is that the social costs of “out of wedlock” births is too high a price for us to pay.
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Isis The Blogger: The Unexpected outcome of Motherhood
I had a full term pregnancy without any complications besides an unstable
relationship. When my son was born he was not responsive, although he looked like a normal, healthy baby; there was something going on in his brain that I would not fully understand until later.”
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LaShaun Williams: No Wedding, No Womb,The Real War on Child Poverty and Abuse
“A new generation of nuclear households starts with black women and self-preservation, not just for personal sanctity but also for the mental health of their children. They don’t deserve the heartache that comes with being born into poverty.”
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Married Girl in a Weird World: Marriage is Excellent for Practical Reasons Too
“I know marriage isn’t for everyone, it just isn’t. I’m not trying to argue that point. I’m trying to say for all of those folks who feel that co-habitating is the same as marriage well; I’m here to tell you that’s not true, not even close to true. “
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Tracy Renee Jones: Strong Families Are About Having Options: Protect A Family’s Right to Have a Choice
“A stable partnership of any magnitude stands a better chance if each partner is willing and able to share responsibility and commitment to the children.”
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Grief: “Mom, Can you bring my Econ books please?â€
“My son experienced two different households from birth. When I shared with him my plan to write for the NWNW blog-a-thon he was more than willing to have his perspective shared. “
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Martin Lindsey: “The Children Are Not Alright, But We Can Make It Right”
“As an “actionist” I try not to whine about a problem but actually do something about it.”
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Dee Dee Russell: Village Ghetto Land
NWNW is highlighting the reality of the obscene numbers of African “American out of wedlock births resulting in fatherless households. Too many fatherless kids fail, go to jail and have horrible lives. Stop talking about slavery stop blaming the white man go help raise your kids. Your excuse is not an excuse anymore!”
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Ralph Richard Banks: “How I know two parents are better than one”
Ralph Richard Banks, author of the fast-selling book, “Is Marriage for White People”
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Jennifer Vaughn: When the Price Is Too High
“Unless and until key factors within the market fundamentally change, we can’t realistically expect the girls to change their behavior.”
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Nisa Muhammad: Raise Your Hands High!!!!
“The facts are clear. The children of marriage parents do much better on nearly every scale of health, education, wellbeing and more. Marriage is the best environment to raise children. Marriage is where men and women can be all they want to be with the help and support of a caring spouse.”
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Halima Anderson: Shared Responsibility not depending only on the Energies of Black Women!
“I don’t think anyone can legitimately argue against people’s rights to make specific choices in life, but what if those choices, have an unfavourable impact not just on them but others and in this case their children? Are we simply to ignore all of that?”
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Janine Latus: You should be a model!
“We need rites of passage in this world that don’t include having babies. We need girls to stop feeling like women because they have babies and boys to stop feeling like men because they’ve spread their seed.”
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Rainebeauxese Redux: We ARE the problem.
“TRY TO PRETEND Christelyn is not penning an IR book alongside getting this
movement going. Apples and zebus, people–macro, not micro.”
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Janks Morton: “Are We There Yet?”
My scream-out-loud moment came when I saw that a staggering 59% of African American women with multiple children had multiple fathers (National Longitudinal Survey of Youth: University of Michigan Institute for Social Research. Date of publication unavailable). My immediate thoughts were, can we go any lower? have we hit rock bottom? are we there yet?
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LaShaun Williams: No Wedding, No Womb: Being a Baby-Mama Is Not OK
The normalization of single motherhood is singlehandedly destroying the youth of today and tomorrow. Women are incapable of raising boys to be men and girls learn what to expect from men from their fathers.
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The Culturatist: “So Today, I Joined the Movement.”
I wonder why is fatherless children are so prominent in the African American race?
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Investor Joshua Kennon: “Look at the dataâ€
Look at the data. Out-of-wedlock pregnancies are a broad spectrum problem across most demographic groups. It has real ramifications for family income levels, educational attainment and more. As an investor, one of my goals is for the average family to be as successful and financially independent as possible. The pregnancy crisis threatens that goal.
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A Lawyer Gives FREE Advice: Married/Divorced Women Have Fare Far Better in the Family Court System
In the past, I’ve defended men in oow paternity cases, and have done opposing depositions of unmarried women who had oow babies. I found those proceedings to be extremely unpleasant for everybody involved.
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Dr. LeslieBeth Wish: Does Your Mom Really Want You To Do Better?
Few of the women connected their poor choice of partner with identifying with their mother, so you are not alone if you are surprised, too, with the lack of success in your love life. It’s hard, after all, to really leave home completely, and becoming even a little like your mother is one way of keeping her close.
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Broken Brown Egg: Responsible Conception
“…to those who have no issue with the message of NWNW but claim their aggravation is on it not serving a real purpose or having any real “focusâ€, I dare you to work with Christelyn at developing one. I DARE you to do something.”
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Leslie Jones McCloud: NWNW Aims to Lessen Single Mother Birthrate
No Wedding No Womb attempts to challenge men and women who think it is cool to go half on a baby to get married first and then plan a family. Note: I wrote “plan a family,†not roll the dice and have unprotected sex and what may be, may be.
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It’s About The Youngins: NWNW Catching On in Cyberspace!
I agree with the message that it sends because it is a message I barely see promoted in the world of today. As most can see now, more and more young, beautiful women are subjugating themselves to the status of “baby mama” and nothing more.
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Eric Payne: Fear, the Fatherhood Killer
I was hardly happy when I was told I was going to have a child. In fact, I nearly had a panic attack. My stomach tightened. My mouth dried out. My heart pounded out against my rib cage and I didn’t think there was enough air in the world to fill my lungs. For a second I began to hallucinate that I was asleep dreaming that I was awake.
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Angela Nichelle: A Call to A.R.M.S.
The first step to working on this multi-layered problem is to admit a problem exists within the African American community because of the structural collapse of our families.
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Veronica Miller: “Hey Girls, Listen Up–You Have a Choiceâ€
HEY GIRLS, LISTEN UP — YOU HAVE A CHOICE Veronica Miller @veronicamarche http://veroniiblog.blogspot.com/ I was 15 years old. It was September, school had just started back up, and a classmate (We’ll call her Vanna), was asking me if my boyfriend and I were still together. “Yep,†I said. “Still together.†“Even through the whole summer?†[...]
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No Wedding, No Womb: I’m Searchin’ For a Real Love
So now that I have been a mother (both a single mother and a married mother) for almost 18 years, what would I say to a young woman or man that may be looking for love in all the wrong places:
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NWNW on Twitter: “WHEW!!! JESUS BE A BOXING REFEREE!!â€
The angels and demons of Twitter have come together in a “Clash of the Tw-itans†and all of this for the WHOLE WORLD TO SEE!! PEOPLE THE WHOLE WORLD…
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“Hoodrat†Writer Clarifies Her Position on NWNW
All along, I was thinking that there must be something wrong with us as a group if we can seriously consider shooting ourselves in the foot like this by promoting single motherhood. There is no shame in single motherhood. Let me repeat that for you really dense people out there: There is no shame in single motherhood. It’s not a matter of shame. It is a matter of people advising others against taking a risk that usually does not work out well.
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(Open Forum) Rebuttal and Advice by Relationship Expert, Deborrah Cooper
Original NWNW participant and dating and relationship columnist, Deborrah Cooper lays out her candid opinions. Cover your ears if you’re under 12! www.survivingdating.com
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Straw arguments against NWNW, separating myths from facts
Black In the Bay State – Fly, Fabulous and Fed up Changing the black perspective one entry at a time straw arguments against NWNW, separating myths from facts Myth – Your husband will beat you. Your kid is better off. Fact – If you pick a good husband in the first place, you don’t have to [...]
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Pioneer Valley Woman: “Getting Back to the Basicsâ€
“Getting back to the Basics” by PioneerValleyWoman Today is my birthday. I am a member of “generation X,” that age cohort of Americans born between the late 1960s and the 1970s. It seems that the older members of this group of African Americans alive today were the last ones to experience marital parenting as the [...]
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NWNW Supporter and Member of Arrested Development, Jason “jjboogie†Reichert, Gives Touching Appeal
If you’re on Twitter and following the #NWNW hashtag, chances are you’ve seen Jason Jjboogie Reichert, guitarist for the hit group, Arrested Development. He reached out to me on Facebook this morning as a result of his disallusionment regarding some of the negative comments about this movement. Â Here is what he said: I put this [...]
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Jara: “Dear Deadbeat Dads, I Believe You Can Change”
Almost daily, I hear someone express the opinion that people don’t and can’t change. Well, I disagree. It’s never too late to stop being a deadbeat dad.
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My Solution for “No Wedding No Womb†~ by Nikki and The City [Support]
I work in a housing project in Chicago. I witness a lot of things that grieve me. Since when is it okay to blast “You Gone Think I Invented Sex†with your little children in the car singing along? With the help of the media we are subconsciously planting seeds in our child that has major effects on them.
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![When Supporting a Cause is Cause for Self Examination ~ by Ana Hodges-Gazawi of “Quiskaeya†[Support, 2nd Essay]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/j0321042.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
When Supporting a Cause is Cause for Self Examination ~ by Ana Hodges-Gazawi of “Quiskaeya†[Support, 2nd Essay]
“So, Ms. Gazawi. Tell me about No Wedding No Womb (NWNW) and why you joined this movement.†The therapist asked without lifting his head, as he continued to scribble away on a notepad in his lap.
“Tell me what has joining this movement revealed to you about yourself?†The therapist asked in a slow, demure manner as he lifted his eyes in my direction and held my gaze for a moment, before returning them to the notepad.
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Advice to Young Girls: Don’t Get Pregnant ~ by blackgirlgrown [Support]
It is tough enough in this world alone, even harder as a child raising a child. Protect yourself. These days sex is more about life and death, and less about trying not to get pregnant. You have two choices: don’t have sex or don’t have unprotected sex.
Somehow, wanting our young girls to wait until marriage to improve their own chances of survival, a future, and an eventual family when the time is right can be considered downright heresy.
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![Ranting and Raving ~ by Jennifer Catura Hornsby, 17, of “Half Past Dope†[Support]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/shutterstock_372078.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Ranting and Raving ~ by Jennifer Catura Hornsby, 17, of “Half Past Dope†[Support]
The black community is on code red right now. We can no longer afford to be in denial about the problems affecting our community, any of them. But luckily for us that Christelyn Karazin felt the obligation to her people to pick a problem out the hat and begin a movement. Whether you are down for NWNW or not to deny that the break down of the black family is not a problem in our community is ludicrous. Our community in this country has one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel. And in this day and age we can no longer point to slavery or white people as the sole reason for our downfall. No, now there is nobody to blame for the strife in our community but us. We progressed more after slavery under Jim Crow then we have in the last forty years. We have been slowly backsliding into the abyss of self-inflicted genocide.
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![Young Ladies, Listen to Me Carefully — A Humorous Take on NWNW ~ by rainebeaux [Support]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/j0227558.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Young Ladies, Listen to Me Carefully — A Humorous Take on NWNW ~ by rainebeaux [Support]
These people are basically Crazy Uncle Larry (who doesn’t have one?) coming up with the bright idea–at the July Fourth barbecue, no less!–of holding a fireworks display IN THE LIVING ROOM
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![So You’re Ready For Another Kid? Well Where’s My Diamond?!?!?! ~ by @CindasMommy of “Uncommon Sense†[Support]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/NWNW-baby1.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
So You’re Ready For Another Kid? Well Where’s My Diamond?!?!?! ~ by @CindasMommy of “Uncommon Sense†[Support]
Before you decide to become a baby mama/daddy, remember it’s a whole lot It’s easier to send Junebug and his F-stricken report card to the other room for his daddy to take care of than it is to call his daddy Tyrone to help him come get his shit.
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Saving the Black Family from Destruction ~ by Anson Asaka of “New Possibilities†[Support]
Ultimately, we need a social revolution. Unfortunately, for many young black men, marriage is frowned upon. As reflected in today’s mainstream rap music, the pimp and player are glorified. Black male promiscuity is celebrated and the sisters are reduced to sex objects. That mentality promotes selfish individualism and perpetuates the destruction of the black family.
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![“There are these things that prevent pregnancy. I forget what they are called.†— A Hilarious Take on NWNW ~ by reverendÂdrdash of “Watch Me Yule†[Support]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/waterbed_main.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
“There are these things that prevent pregnancy. I forget what they are called.†— A Hilarious Take on NWNW ~ by reverendÂdrdash of “Watch Me Yule†[Support]
I deplore dialog, unless of course it involves my genitalia confabulating with some vagina. Excessive Vagina Dialog in the Black community has led to a high percentage of out of wedlock births. The excuses reasons for this situation like its consequences are legion. I have decided to interject my two cents and some sense into this #NWNW movement. There are these things that prevent pregnancy. I forget what they are called. The name of them is on the tip of my tongue…
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Follow Up … Tackling a Problem ~ by Black Girl in Maine [Support, 2nd Essay, Open Forum, Let’s Discuss Solutions!]
In some ways to merely say get married is a rather simplistic response to a rather real and serious problem. One of the questions being tossed around in the twitterverse after this online blitz has been what do we do next? In order to answer that question though and truly come up with meaningful solutions I think we must go back and look at what are the issues that have brought us to the point where the vast majority of African American children are born out of wedlock.
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What I Like About NWNW ~ by Kola Boof [Support, Comments]
What I LIKE about this movement is that it sends a very strong message to “young black girls†that their lives have value & worth
–and more importantly–that THEY should be the ones to demand/attach that value & worth.

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LeBron James and His Would Be Daddy ~ by Renee of “Womanist Musings†[Support]
While I believe that the onus of this movement once again places the responsibility on women to bring about social change through the exercise of restraint, the idea that Black men need to own their responsiblities and stop making babies that they don’t intend to raise, is something that resonates with me.
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![Thoughts on NWNW: Time to Address the Problem ~ by Trevor Hamm of “trevhamm.com” [Support]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/martin_luther_king.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Thoughts on NWNW: Time to Address the Problem ~ by Trevor Hamm of “trevhamm.com” [Support]
Martin Luther King said, “One of the sure signs of maturity is the ability to rise to the point of self-criticism.”
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I Cannot Defend or Condone Foolishness ~ by Flaming_star of “Single Girl in the Weird World†[Support]
You know as a woman of principle I cannot stand behind and defend or condone foolishness. And the tweets to the person who’s started this movement, Christelyn Karazin, have been more than ridiculous, they should be down right criminal. How anyone could defend birthing a child into this world without two parents in stable and loving household (and I don’t care if they are hetero and homo-sexual) is just shameful.
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![OOW Births: A Strategic Disadvantage from a Health Perspective? ~ by Adwoa Boahene of “The K Dossier†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/j0321057.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
OOW Births: A Strategic Disadvantage from a Health Perspective? ~ by Adwoa Boahene of “The K Dossier†[Event Post]
My thesis is simple: out of wedlock births pose a strategic disadvantage for communities of color which translates into serious health consequences for women and their children.
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![Whose Body Is This: A Statement on “OOW Births†in the Black Community ~ by Afua Boahene (a.k.a. smelodydiva) of “Conversations With My Sisters†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/pregnant-teen-silhouette.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Whose Body Is This: A Statement on “OOW Births†in the Black Community ~ by Afua Boahene (a.k.a. smelodydiva) of “Conversations With My Sisters†[Event Post]
Some girls say, “If I give it up, boys will want
me.†Many girls were “looking for love†in all the wrong places, saying things like“ I don’t feel good about myself, “I don’t like myself,†or “I don’t feel pretty and that’s why I do it.â€
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Leaving the Burning House ~by Shecodes [Event Post]
What if your partner who was lying in bed with you looked you straight in your face and said: “What flames? What smoke? The problem is not that bad. Go back to sleep.†… all the while you clearly smell your hair getting singed by the overwhelming heat of the tongues of flames that were disintegrating your headboard… What would you do?
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“I Grew Up a Fatherless Child…†~ by Cherilyn Smith of “Black Women Deserve Better†[Event Post]
Yes, I overcame numerous hurdles which have developed my resilient and resourceful character, but at what cost? When is the price too high? Some fatherless children can and do go on to do awesome things. (Note: SOME!) The tragic reality which plagues a majority can no longer be ignored. Disproportionate numbers of fatherless children are the walking wounded.
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![Adventures in Co-Parenting: There’s No Such Thing as a Part Time Father ~ by Dan Tres Omi (a.k.a. Brother OMi) of “Have kampilan, will travel†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/sad-child-resized-600.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Adventures in Co-Parenting: There’s No Such Thing as a Part Time Father ~ by Dan Tres Omi (a.k.a. Brother OMi) of “Have kampilan, will travel†[Event Post]
While I am happily married with four children, my oldest son, whom we affectionately call X Man, is an out of wedlock child.
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![Parents, Children Need to Dream a Bigger Dream ~ by Danielle Belton of “The Black Snob†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/woman-and-little-girl-at-fair.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Parents, Children Need to Dream a Bigger Dream ~ by Danielle Belton of “The Black Snob†[Event Post]
My mother taught me about sex when I was nine-years-old. Nine. Years before my first period or puberty. Years before I was interested in having sex. Years before peers and television would try to feed me misinformation.
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![Single Mother Tells of Her Pain ~ by Deserie Johnson (a.k.a. Sanjo Jendayi; dpoetist on YouTube) of “DeepRootz Inspirtainment†[Event Post, Video, Poetry]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/pregnant-belly-couple.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
![We Must Stop Teaching Our Sons to Sow Their Wild Oats ~ by Fred Goodall of “Mocha Dad” [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/bored-boy.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
We Must Stop Teaching Our Sons to Sow Their Wild Oats ~ by Fred Goodall of “Mocha Dad” [Event Post]
Dads are quite focused on protecting their precious little princesses from unplanned pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and heartbreak caused by some silly boy. Almost every father with daughters that I know plans to purchase two items: a shotgun and a chastity belt. The shotgun is to intimidate his daughter’s suitors. If the gun doesn’t scare off the boys, then the chastity belt will be the next line of protection. But when it comes to their sons, many men refuse to hold them to the same standard of sexual purity.
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![My Thoughts: A Cycle That Needs to Be Stopped ~ by Jamie Fleming of “for colored gurls†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/curly-hair-single-mom.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
My Thoughts: A Cycle That Needs to Be Stopped ~ by Jamie Fleming of “for colored gurls†[Event Post]
Like I said before, I think this is a huge issue. Before I go any further I want to mention a couple of things: I don’t knock any woman who makes the decision to be a single mother if she can afford to and is capable of caring for the child (a lot of women want children but don’t want to wait for marriage because of their age– I get that), but I don’t think that’s the case for most black women.
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![Reminding Black Women of Their Worth ~ by Janks Morton of “What Black Men Think†[Event Post, Video]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/JYNXHIRES.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
![A New Statistic: You’re Not the Exception ~ by Jennifer Vaughn (a.k.a. Aoide-Melete-Mneme) of “à la mode de les Muses†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/thinking-woman.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
A New Statistic: You’re Not the Exception ~ by Jennifer Vaughn (a.k.a. Aoide-Melete-Mneme) of “à la mode de les Muses†[Event Post]
Girl, it’s time for a reality check. The “it†in “It can’t happen to me†happens all the time. Pretending it won’t is the worst defense. Here’s an alternative strategy: Hold your ground.
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![The Days of The Oops ~ by Jimi Izrael [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/Shocked-man.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
The Days of The Oops ~ by Jimi Izrael [Event Post]
When I read articles blaming black men for the rising tide of single mother births, I never see the schematics of the solar-powered, remote controlled leg-opener black men are given just after puberty that compels young black ladies to spread their legs.
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![Juliana Norwood of OurWeekly Newspaper Endorses No Wedding No Womb! [Opinion, Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/ourweekly.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Juliana Norwood of OurWeekly Newspaper Endorses No Wedding No Womb! [Opinion, Event Post]
Juliana Norwood, staff writer for OurWeekly I personally feel that the level of baby-mama/daddy-ism is in the African American community is truly a tragedy. I completely agree that there are many different reasons why these situations occur, such as many socioeconomic factors, but I believe it is far beyond the time that we start putting more weight [...]
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![NWNW Isn’t About Bashing! ~ by Kimberly R. Woods [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/mad-boy.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
NWNW Isn’t About Bashing! ~ by Kimberly R. Woods [Event Post]
Before folks think the No Wedding No Womb movement is about bashing black single parent families, I want to present another informational gem…
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What If You Could Pick Your Parents? ~ by Kris Johnson [Event Post]
Try to imagine yourself as a child. If you could have planned your own origins, what family would you choose? It’s almost guaranteed that you’d pick a doting, father with an impeccable reputation. A protector, a man who takes care of his family, a good man. For a mother, you may pick…
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![Do Better By Your Children! ~ by Lauren Bailey of “Lola Gets…†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/j0316973.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Do Better By Your Children! ~ by Lauren Bailey of “Lola Gets…†[Event Post]
Just think about it, don’t you value your unborn children? Don’t you
think your future progeny deserve to have the best life possible? So,
if you have high standards for the lives of your future children, you
should have high standards for the father of these children as well!
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![Marriage Is the New Poop Word ~ by Lisa Mason [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/shit1.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Marriage Is the New Poop Word ~ by Lisa Mason [Event Post]
Heaven forbid that you “offend†single mothers or suggest that it’s better for a child to have two good parents instead of one.
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![Single Mom by Choice Says, “Baby Mammahood Must Cease!†~ by LorMarie [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/headache-girl.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Single Mom by Choice Says, “Baby Mammahood Must Cease!†~ by LorMarie [Event Post]
First I need to declare that I’m an unapologetic SMC. For those of you unfamiliar with this acronym, it stands for single mother by choice.
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![The OOW Problem Has Morphed Into Black-on-Black Crime ~ by Martin Lindsey [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/crime-scene.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
The OOW Problem Has Morphed Into Black-on-Black Crime ~ by Martin Lindsey [Event Post]
No more lynch mobs performing murder and mayhem on us for public entertainment. No, we’re way past the culture of the Roman Coliseum in America. In contemporary society we are breeding our own guaranteed generational curse.
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![Why Marriage? ~ by Nisa I. Muhammad of “Marriage, Pleaseâ€, Founder of Black Marriage Day [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/j0309372.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Why Marriage? ~ by Nisa I. Muhammad of “Marriage, Pleaseâ€, Founder of Black Marriage Day [Event Post]
Isn’t it interesting that the Black woman is the only woman touting her strength with pride? Why doesn’t the Latino woman have to be strong? Where is the strong Asian woman? What about the strong Caucasian woman? Why does the Black woman have to be strong? Why can’t she just be a woman?
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![NWNW! Not a Blame-Storm or a Shame-Storm, but We’ve Got Some Work Ahead ~ by Brooke Brimm, Editor of “Love’s Gumbo†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/mom-and-baby.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
NWNW! Not a Blame-Storm or a Shame-Storm, but We’ve Got Some Work Ahead ~ by Brooke Brimm, Editor of “Love’s Gumbo†[Event Post]
This is very hard for us to talk about. It’s so hard that we have made a tough heart-wrenching situation into one to be celebrated. We wave a banner, we shout it from the mountain tops, we sing little ditties about it, and we high five each other on Father’s Day. Single-motherhood is a hard and heavy crown to wear.
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No Wedding, No Womb: No Decisions, No Success
In my opinion, the decision making process when it comes to planning for a family is gone. Babies kind of just happen before we make conscious decisions that we want to spend the rest of our lives with someone else.
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![Committing to the Idea of Family ~ by Onica Cupido of “Euphoria Luv Blog†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/black-family-dressed-in-white.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Committing to the Idea of Family ~ by Onica Cupido of “Euphoria Luv Blog†[Event Post]
As a community we need more commitment conversations along with the “lets have a baby” convo.
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![The Strong Black Woman… ~ by Ana Hodges-Gazawi of “Quiskaeya†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/strong-black-woman.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
The Strong Black Woman… ~ by Ana Hodges-Gazawi of “Quiskaeya†[Event Post]
“I AM their father! I AM their mother! I AM all they need! They don’t need that good for nothing bastard!†A strong black woman would shriek in my office at DCF in such a loud manner her voice could be heard bellowing through the halls. A strong black woman in corporate America was far more demure, but would display much the same mannerisms whilst explaining “What can he do for my children? He can’t even maintain a job. What kind of father could he possibly be to them?â€
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![Dear Grandpa: A Legacy of Commitment ~ by Salima Singletary of “On My Mind†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/girl-with-grandpa.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Dear Grandpa: A Legacy of Commitment ~ by Salima Singletary of “On My Mind†[Event Post]
I worry about the future of Black Americans. I worry that our professional, financial and political gains–generations of effort– will be undone by personal recklessness. www.foreverloyal.wordpress.com
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![A Womb Is Not a Tomb ~ by @Soulful1 of “Post-Racial: Millenium 2100″ [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/fetus.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
A Womb Is Not a Tomb ~ by @Soulful1 of “Post-Racial: Millenium 2100″ [Event Post]
All I want is the coochie, I aint lookin to get married. Ladies, if you feel the same as I do, then let’s get it on and quit playin. However, if you desire to find a mate for life, giving it up every Saturday night isn’t going to win you many wife-material points. You gave up your sexuality for free, I suspect you do that for anyone with a car, drink, and a motel room.
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![Is the Black Community Facing a “Baby Daddy†Epidemic? ~ by Stephanie M. Watts of “The Sauda Voice†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/pretty-little-girl1.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Is the Black Community Facing a “Baby Daddy†Epidemic? ~ by Stephanie M. Watts of “The Sauda Voice†[Event Post]
It’s not much of a guess because the evidence is all around us. Each day we step foot outside our doors we see it. On the street. In the supermarket. In the park. On the playground. In our very own families. Women. Black women. We are the overwhelming majority of those caring for and raising black children. Alone. I ask you, family. Why?
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![That Doggone Blue Pill … ~ Tia Thomas of “The World of Miss Glamtastic†[Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/the-matrix.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
That Doggone Blue Pill … ~ Tia Thomas of “The World of Miss Glamtastic†[Event Post]
Everywhere we turn, we are getting force-fed red pills, especially when it comes to the huge number of children born out-of-wedlock (OOW.)
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NWNW Promo ~ by Tim Alexander (a.k.a. ScreenTime on YouTube) [Video, Rated R for Language, Event Post]
“In my usual edgy fashion, I took it upon myself to delivery and heavy-handed message for those of you who like it hard. Just keeping it real, ya’ll! Warning: If you don’t like cussing, don’t click it!” –Tim Alexander, creator of the upcoming film “A Mother’s Love” and from the film maker who brought you “Diary of a Tired Black Man”
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![Why Do Children Need Their Fathers? ~ by TJ Michaels [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/TJ-Michaels.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
Why Do Children Need Their Fathers? ~ by TJ Michaels [Event Post]
Why do we put more planning into our next vacation than we do in planning our families? And why are we willing to accept less than what we want when it comes to ‘the ring’? The answer- because black women are fed the “you’re not worthy of a good guy†crap from a young age. It’s rare that black girls, in general, are made to feel special. www.tjmichaels.com
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![A Father Reflects on How His Wife and Daughter “Make It All Work.†~ by Torrey Spears [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/Torrey-Spears.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
A Father Reflects on How His Wife and Daughter “Make It All Work.†~ by Torrey Spears [Event Post]
“…all of the fantastic memories over the past three years came rushing to my head. From the dirty diapers and late night feedings, to dressing up in nylon crowns and toasting plastic spoons while playing “tea party with the King and Princessâ€. Memories that will stay with me through her scholastic years, her endeavor into the world, and when she blesses someone with her love and begins her own family.” www.torreyspears.com
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![First-Hand Witness of Emotional Trauma ~ by Vanessa Jean Louis of “Afroconservative” [Event Post]](http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/themes/equator/timthumb.php?src=http://www.noweddingnowomb.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/j0178844.jpg&w=200&h=260&zc=1)
First-Hand Witness of Emotional Trauma ~ by Vanessa Jean Louis of “Afroconservative” [Event Post]
Many of us in the blogosphere (from different political persuasions) are writing in tandem about this issue as a result of the deafening silence from the media, academics, and so called “Black leaders†who refuse to acknowledge the pernicious psycho-social effects on children who are a product of unwed motherhood.
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STUCK ON STUPID ALERT: Deadbeat Dad Reinforces Stereotype
Family, I can no longer speak in nice, politically correct terms about this issue. So, I won’t even try. Sadly, black men having babies and not taking care of them is no longer an ugly stereotype, but rather a truth.
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